How To Take Proper Care Of Your Dom

Dominant/submissive bad daysIf this is not the top concern I hear from submissives, then it’s at least in the top three.  your Dominant spends a lot of time, and energy protecting and caring for you.  How does a submissive go about doing the same in return?

Svana took the time to really express how she feels about taking care of her Dom.  It is beautifully written and expressed and I think every submissive should read it, if not memorize it.  I hope it helps with your Dom/sub relationship.

Thanks again to Svana for creating such an amazing article.

Master Bishop

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Recently I had a new friend ask me, in a frustrated moment, “How do you take care of a Dom?!?” I took a moment an asked him what was wrong. He filled me in that he was in the loving throes of a brand new D/s dynamic…his first of it’s kind. We talked for a long while and I gave him my knee jerk reaction. I’ve been captivated by the topic ever since. I wanted to create a guideline for myself on how to take care of a Dominant. I consider those I submit to to be extraordinary. These are singular men. I want to make sure that they know that I know that I’ve found something rare and precious in him.

I was struck by the question. I realized right then and there that this was an excellent query, worth more than a moment’s consideration. There are many posts on taking proper care of your sub, aftercare, taking feelings into account during play…and I realized there were far fewer on how we, as submissives, should care for our Dominants. Let’s consider who we’re talking about. Whether we’re talking about Male or Female Dominants we are talking about people. Full-fledged every day folk who have bad days, good days, up and down days, and every other kind of day that you have as a submissive…person.

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Slave Service Dinner

If you are looking for have a formal submissive service dinner, then you should have a look at the formal instructions sub-kathleen wrote out for submissives who were looking to serve at her latest Service Etiquette Dinner.  Putting on an evening like this takes a lot of preparation, hard work and attention to detail.  Every…

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Dom/sub Journal: Do you Dare?

Do you dare to be your true self? Do you dare to celebrate your desires?  Despite society accepting many different sexual lifestyles, BDSM is still considered an offensive and deplorable lifestyle choice.  This does not mean you should go out and reveal your desires to the public, as this can have serious consequences with your…

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In The Closet About BDSM

In a day and age when acceptance of many different lifestyle choices has grown, BDSM is still looked down upon.  Jobs can be lost, individuals can be shunned by coworkers, even friends and family members can disappear once they find out that your interests have strayed into BDSM.  This is why one of the worst things you can do is publicly out someone in the lifestyle, because the ramifications of their personal life can be immense.

So you can understand why sub cee was upset when her coworkers blindsided her by publicly discussing her desires within the lifestyle.  Have a read and see what happened and how she did to handle the situation.

Master Bishop

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What to Expect at a BDSM Event

Welcome To Your KinksWhether you’re in a BDSM relationship now or you simply want to get out and meet more of the BDSM community, there are plenty of events which can introduce you to others who share your same interests. By getting out into the community, you can not only meet other slaves and Masters and Mistresses, but you can also begin to learn more about what you can do to expand your BDSM horizons.

What Kinds of Events are Out There?

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Dom/me Question: How To Deal With A Submissive That Is Being Difficult

Dom/me Question:

Being new to the Dom side what are the best ways to control my sub/switch, when she tries to be difficult and bitchy and challenges me?

Thanks Todd

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Master Bishop’s Opinion:

This is a question that comes up again and again, so know that you’re not alone in your frustration. I remember when I was first starting out and I had a slave that would test my patience continuously. While it was certainly maddening for a bit, it also helped me to learn how to control them effectively – and completely. And now I get to pass that information on to you.

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Dom/sub Journal: The Importance Of Patience In Submissive Training

One of the most important characteristics for any Dominant or submissive to have is patience. The dictionary definition of patience is the ability to accept and/or tolerate trouble or suffering without becoming angry. While patience is crucial in many aspects of life it is even more important within submissive training. Losing your temper or becoming…

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