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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse

The Difference Between BDSM & Abuse

BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship. In no way shape or form, would W/we ever support any form of abuse. It is wrong to physically or emotionally lash out at another person and cause that person any form of mental, emotional or physical harm or duress.
In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.

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The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants

Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self thus allowing for more intense experiences. In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.

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Why I Love Playing With Floggers

Why Flogging Is My Favorite Impact Play

A submissive girl I met at a munch invited me to my first play party. As my evening began, I was full of hopes and dreams and countless fantasies, but exceptionally short on experience. Not only did I learn a lot on that evening, but I got to play for the first time too. And that experience created a lifelong love of impact play that

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Kink Healing

Kink Healing

The kink lifestyle has always been incredibly fruitful for me. I’ve been able to explore myself sexually, discover what makes me tick, and been able to tap into pleasures I never knew could exist. Beyond the physical pleasure, I’ve been fortunate enough to have found a place of healing within the kink lifestyle. I am someone who has suffered from mental health illness since my

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Behavior Modification Thirst For More

Behavior Modification: My Thirst for Self-Improvement

My nose sits uncomfortably close to the smooth baby blue bedroom wall and my eyes are drawn to the tiny spider that’s edging its way to the corner. I’m itching to shift my weight from foot to foot and stretch my arms toward the ceiling, but I don’t. Instead, I sigh inwardly and mentally run through the events that led to the extended period of

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Dominance Through submission BDSM

What I Learned as a Submissive Helped Me be a Better Dominant

I was sweeping the lobby of a dungeon in Dallas when a sudden burst of emotion overtook me, and I began to cry. It wasn’t sadness, but an overarching swell of what I was doing, who I was doing it for, and a deep sense of presence in that moment. Over the course of the last 20 plus years I’ve been a member of the

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Devotion within the BDSM Lifestyle

BDSM Lifestyle 101: Making Your Fantasy a Reality

I will forever remember the day I realized the lifestyle I had only ever dreamed possible, was actually my reality. Way back in December 2014, I knelt before my Sir, lifted my hair into a ponytail, and felt the titanium of my collar lock around my neck. I was in Heaven. Pure bliss. And couldn’t believe my fantasies were now a reality–and how in love

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BDSM Hogtie Pleasures

Heightened Hogtie Pleasures

As a Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist, I counsel individuals and couples in overcoming barriers they may be experiencing with orgasm. Guiding individuals through experiences to ensure that they experience their best orgasm. In BDSM different positions can be utilized to not only bring on a different state of mind, but different types of orgasms and sensations that can release a new kind of energy and pleasure.

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Refocus Yourself Through Your BDSM

Refocusing Harmful Traits

While navigating the kink space, I’ve experienced many moments of vulnerability. Moments that shed light on some toxic traits that I wasn’t aware I possessed. A toxic trait, at least how I define it, is anything that is detrimental to yourself or another person in a relationship. All I knew is that these weren’t traits that I wanted to keep.

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Unleash their inner Dominant

A submissive girl’s guide to drawing out the Dominant in your partner

So, what do we do when we find ourselves out of sync with our partners? When we want to deepen our submission, or switch from a top to a bottom and our partners are not on the same page?

Being dominated is one of the most common fantasies, especially in people who identify as woman. The most common themes of sexual submission include bondage, spanking and consensual non-consent role plays. So, what happens when you decide you want these fantasies played out in real life?

While you can’t force the desire to dominate in another person, you can highlight how powerful they will feel by taking on that mantle so that they can make demands of and perform erotic activities with you. Here are some ideas of how to get started.

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Alpha Submissive Growth From Service

Servant Leadership for the Alpha Submissive

The first time I heard the term “alpha submissive” it resonated with me immediately. It was described as the woman boss who doesn’t back down in the corporate world but once she’s behind closed doors, the pumps come off and the collar goes on. An independent woman who doesn’t need a man but always needs her Daddy.

Conceptually it made sense to me, but when I thought about it a little deeper, there are many layers to alpha submissives that work very well with servant leadership. Intertwining servant leadership with my submission has not only allowed me to submit more readily but also has led to levels of personal growth and accountability that I never realized were attainable.

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