BDSM is made up of a group of interests, activities and desires or some call kinks and fetishes. Knowing your kinks and fetishes before you ever step into any kind of BDSM play is essential to make sure you avoid activities or fetishes that you do not have an interest in. It will also provide you with a better idea of your current desires, so you can find a potential partner or partners who may have compatible desires to yours and more easily negotiate play scenes. 

As humans, our likes and dislikes will change over time, as will our kinks, fetishes and limits of what we will and will not do.

• One particular kink that is enjoyed today may become a major turn off tomorrow.
• What was once considered completely off limits may turn into an absolute must have.
• And as we grow and experience, W/we may find that one of our favorite kinks is off limits to everyone, except those who have proven they are worthy of being trusted with this most precious of desires.

There is nothing wrong with kinks, fetishes and limits changing as W/we change. It is all a part of being human. Coming back revisiting your interests to see how you are evolving and changing is always a good idea.

As Aristotle said “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”

Need to figure out more clearly your desires, kinks, fetishes and limits are? Here is an example BDSM Interest Checklist you can use to get started.