BDSM Encyclopedia

Abrasion Play

Is a activity used to stimulate and sensitize a person’s skin.  This can be performed gently to create a mild sensation and help to sensitize the skin with an item like a hairbrush. With some mild rubbing from a hairbrush, a spank, a gentle touch, even a light blow of your breath can become heightened. …

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While many people focus mostly on play and training of BDSM, aftercare is absolutely essential. After a person has been pushed to their physical and mental limits, their mind and body can experience a massive drop as they try to orientate themselves back to reality. After an intense BDSM session, scene or training experience both …

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The Joys Of Anal Anal is the act of playing, stimulating or training the outer and/or inner anus. What many people don’t realize is, the anus has millions of nerve endings that produce pleasurable feelings when properly and safely stimulated. Which is why this is a fetish and sexual act that is enjoyed by many …

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There are a number of ways that you might define BDSM, and each is ‘correct’ in its own way. Some define BDSM as Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism while others take the letters and create Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism. And still others might say that BDSM is comprised of Bondage and Dominance, as well …

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Bondage is the act of tying or being tied up.  However, bondage is more than just getting out the bundle of rope and starting to make knots. It’s an intricate balance of trust between the Dominant and the submissive. The Dominant needs to trust that the submissive will tell them if something is hurting too …

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Is an individual that has negotiated and consented to be on the receiving end of a specific BDSM activity or scene. However, this individual will not yield control or authority to another person. For the most part, there is no form of power exchange with a Bottom, only the exchange of sensations or service. For …

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Brat Taming

Brat Tamer Brat taming is almost as misunderstood as bratting. Brat taming is not about breaking the spirit of a brat or getting them to stop bratting, it is about teaching a brat when it is appropriate to brat and when it is not. Brat tamers, who engage in brat taming, are usually sadists who …

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Bratting Brats are often misunderstood in the BDSM community. They are submissives, usually masochist, who find thrill in being put in their place. They find loopholes in rules, and deliberately break rules, but only for their Dominant’s pleasure. Their Dominants are usually sadist who enjoy punishing their submissives, but for more minor infractions. A true …

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BDSM Contracts Live Your Life


BDSM Contracts A BDSM, Dominant/submissive or Master/Mistress-Slave Contract is a formal physical representation of the agreement about the type of relationship dynamic that will exist between two people. These BDSM Contracts are meant to: Define clear goals for the relationship Establish clear Rules, Boundaries (Limits), and Responsibilities Provide a document that can be referred to …

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Is a discussion outside of the dungeon or play space a day or two after a session to go over the experiences both or all parties had during a training/play scene. A debriefing discussion can be highly beneficial to both the Dominant and the submissive. Be careful of having such an intense discussion too soon …

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