Aftercare

After an intense BDSM session, scene or training experience both the Dominant and submissive or all parties involved will take some time to recover.  This time is usually where the Dominant will provide a safe physical and mental space for the submissive, so the submissive is able to let go and relax after such a…

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BDSM

There are a number of ways that you might define BDSM, and each is ‘correct’ in its own way. Some define BDSM as Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism while others take the letters and create Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism. And still others might say that BDSM is comprised of Bondage and Dominance, as well…

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Bondage

Bondage is the act of tying or being tied up.  However, bondage is more than just getting out the bundle of rope and starting to make knots. It’s an intricate balance of trust between the Dominant and the submissive. The Dominant needs to trust that the submissive will tell them if something is hurting too…

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Debriefing

Is a discussion outside of the dungeon or play space a day or two after a session to go over the experiences both or all parties had during a training/play scene. A debriefing discussion can be highly beneficial to both the Dominant and the submissive. Be careful of having such an intense discussion too soon…

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House Rules

A set of rules established for the Dominant and submissive that must be honored and obeyed at all times. Either a Dominant will have created these rules and teach a new submissive how to follow them to establish the kind of Dom/sub relationship they desire.  Or both the Dominant and submissive will work together to…

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SSC

Stands for Safe Sane And Consensual It is the basis of what many people in the BDSM lifestyle believe is the cornerstone to creating an environment where all parties involved in a scene can safe, comfortable and happy. Lets breakdown each one: Safe You’re not going to do anything or participate in anything that might…

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Switch

Another term that pops up frequently in BDSM circles is the idea of a ‘switch.’ This is a person that identifies as both a dominant and a submissive, depending on who they are with or what they want to do at a particular time. So, for example, a person might bottom to one person one…

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