Pain Versus Anxiety In BDSM

As a slave, there are a lot of things that you can be feeling at any given time – pain, pressure, and fear, as well as joy, ecstasy, and sweet submission. But during an intense scene, it can be difficult to decide what you are feeling. You might be concerned that you are being hurt in a way that is not acceptable to you or perhaps your fear is turning into anxiety and is becoming overwhelming, so you may need to stop and use your safe word. However, you also don’t want to stop a scene early if you are enjoying it. Figuring out what you are feeling can be difficult, so here are some tips to see whether you really need to stop the scene or if you need to push through your pain.

Fear, Anxiety & Eye Popping Pain

Dom/sub Journal: Embarrassed

I was sitting in front of My computer the other day and I was wondering what W/we could do at the academy that would help people to learn more about themselves and their desires within the Dom/sub lifestyle.

Then it hit Me, one of the best tools within BDSM training is for both the Dom and sub to keep a journal of their thoughts, feelings and their interpretation of the experiences that they have. By writing out things out, you make your feelings more concrete. By seeing your feelings physically written on paper, it helps to let you know how you feel. On top of that, you can always go back and review what you have written in the past. This allows you to reread past experiences so you can remind yourself of what you have learned but also to show you how you have grown and changed from these experiences.

When BDSM Goes Wrong

If you’ve been in a BDSM relationship for any period of time, you will notice that some scenes are better than others. Even though you might have everything planned out, this doesn’t mean that you’re going to have it go the way you’ve planned. And in some cases, you might have a very horrible scene, one in which one or both partners have troubles or get hurt. Here are some ways to handle the problem of when BDSM goes wrong.