So many people view BDSM and Dom/sub relationships to be these dark evil lifestyle choices, that strips one person of all their power, choice and freedoms. This in fact could not be further from the truth. I believe the problem might be that many people view these images through their own eyes. They assume that…
Wishing all of you a Happy Valentine’s Day.
Today is the day you can share your kink with that special someone. So unleash your inhibitions and show your partner you care through your kinks.
Much Love And Kink On!
I am rather new to the BDSM lifestyle, and would like some advice on how to start a scene? i.e. how do you work up to the spanking/bondage etc. if your slave has done nothing wrong?
many thanks
~L
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Master Bishop’s Opinion
First of all, it’s a great idea to ask about this, especially since you’re in the beginning of your new lifestyle. When you’re working with a submissive, you need to remember that it doesn’t always have to be about punishment. This is a big misconception that can happen when you only know about BDSM from videos or online images.
If this is not the top concern I hear from submissives, then it’s at least in the top three. your Dominant spends a lot of time, and energy protecting and caring for you. How does a submissive go about doing the same in return?
Svana took the time to really express how she feels about taking care of her Dom. It is beautifully written and expressed and I think every submissive should read it, if not memorize it. I hope it helps with your Dom/sub relationship.
Thanks again to Svana for creating such an amazing article.
Master Bishop
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Recently I had a new friend ask me, in a frustrated moment, “How do you take care of a Dom?!?” I took a moment an asked him what was wrong. He filled me in that he was in the loving throes of a brand new D/s dynamic…his first of it’s kind. We talked for a long while and I gave him my knee jerk reaction. I’ve been captivated by the topic ever since. I wanted to create a guideline for myself on how to take care of a Dominant. I consider those I submit to to be extraordinary. These are singular men. I want to make sure that they know that I know that I’ve found something rare and precious in him.
I was struck by the question. I realized right then and there that this was an excellent query, worth more than a moment’s consideration. There are many posts on taking proper care of your sub, aftercare, taking feelings into account during play…and I realized there were far fewer on how we, as submissives, should care for our Dominants. Let’s consider who we’re talking about. Whether we’re talking about Male or Female Dominants we are talking about people. Full-fledged every day folk who have bad days, good days, up and down days, and every other kind of day that you have as a submissive…person.
