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Exercise Your Fetish

A Fetish for Fitness

As a submissive in a 24/7 TPE relationship, I enjoy meeting the expectations of my Dominant. I strive to please him, I obey commands, I accept discipline and I serve, all of which require dedication and effort. I do enjoy the lifestyle we lead, but it’s not always easy. I find it helps if I’m feeling tip-top, and that means looking after my mental and …

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Embrace Submission in Your Vanilla Life

How to Embrace Submission in Your Vanilla Life

The vanilla world is one realm where Dominants can often have less presence or influence in their submissive’s life, intentional or not. Unless you live with your Dominant in a 24/7 dynamic or your Dominant is often physically with you, the majority of vanilla situations in your life will likely occur without your Dominant’s immediate presence or guidance. This can be for better or worse! …

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BDSM Protocols

BDSM Protocols: Part 1 – Introduction

I feel like the least-likely guy on the Earth to write an article on BDSM protocols. It’s a subject that has fascinated me since I first discovered how kinky I was, and something I’ve studied since the 90s. But, it’s also been a subject that I always figured was too large and too complex, or just something that I didn’t have enough experience to write …

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How To Respect And Follow Your Dominant’s Guidance In Their Absence In Kinky Situations

The presence of a Dominant can be hugely comforting in public. Having their guidance and being able to follow their lead in real time can relieve the stress and pressure of making decisions! But sadly our Dominants can’t follow us everywhere (or vice versa!) and often we must operate without their immediate guidance.

So let’s talk about how you as a submissive can respect and follow your Dominant’s guidance in kink settings when your Dominant is not physically present!

Communicate Your Submissive Little Desires From Your Heart

Communication Standards for Submissives & Littles

The Importance of Effective Communication Effective communication is an important pillar of any healthy relationship. I’ve found that the communication skills I’ve gained through my Teacher/student kink dynamic have helped me improve my ability to communicate in other areas of my life. Learning to better express myself has made all the difference, not only in my romantic relationships but also in platonic, familial, and professional …

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Yes, Dominants Need Aftercare Too

I traveled with my submissive to a public dungeon out-of-town and attended a great seminar followed by an open play session. I was inspired by the seminar to try some of the things that the presenter had mentioned. What followed was a fun session for us. It was an intense and challenging session for the submissive, but it was equally immersive and draining on me …

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The Ins And Outs Of Domestic Discipline

The Ins and Out of Domestic Discipline

If you like the idea of adopting a 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship, Domestic Discipline (DD) could be just your thing. A consensual lifestyle choice based on the framework of Domination and submission (D/s); DD incorporates one partner taking full control while the other complies. This type of affiliation isn’t for everyone, but my husband/Dom and I have enjoyed a fruitful DD relationship for over …

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Submissive Discovery Of Little Self Identity

Undercover Littles: Integrating Little Me In Daily Life

The little’s community was not just the first community I encountered when I stumbled into the lifestyle in 2018, but also one of the warmest and most accepting. Despite my lack of familiarity with the language, practices, or dynamic structures, it felt like I had found my people at last. Being “little” is more of a character trait than a hat I wear during a …

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Support From A Strong Dominant

The Art Of Asking For Help As A Submissive

Wow. Sitting here at a computer, writing for the Academy again. It feels: surreal. Amazing. And also completely terrifying. The words don’t come as easy as they once did, yet this is the very moment I have been fighting to get back to for the past year. See, this past year I was fighting a cancer which, up until a month or so ago, I …

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Know Your BDSM Boundaries

Creating Boundaries From Scratch

My upbringing didn’t prepare me for the concept of boundaries. Instead, I learned that privacy was seen as a negative and equated to secrecy. I also learned that self-sacrifice was one of the cornerstones of love and that to say no to someone you loved made you a mean, evil person. Needless to say, I left home primed and ready for victimhood, codependent relationships, and heartbreak.

I found myself in situation after situation where I was constantly made a doormat. It didn’t matter how nice I was or how often I changed myself, the expectation was for me to take all of my partners’ negativity and smile while doing so. It had gotten to the point where mistreatment was so normalized, I could never see the warning signs and found myself in one soul-sucking relationship after another.

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