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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
I continually receive emails and comments at The BDSM Training Academy about how BDSM is a form of abuse. I find it very upsetting, especially when we try so hard to educate people on how to incorporate a safe, sane and consensual form of BDSM here at the Academy. BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship.
The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self.
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The Ins and Out of Domestic Discipline
If you like the idea of adopting a 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship, Domestic Discipline (DD) could be just your thing. A consensual lifestyle choice based on the framework of Domination and submission (D/s); DD incorporates one partner taking full control while the other complies. This type of affiliation isn’t for everyone, but my husband/Dom and I have enjoyed a fruitful DD relationship for over
Undercover Littles: Integrating Little Me In Daily Life
The little’s community was not just the first community I encountered when I stumbled into the lifestyle in 2018, but also one of the warmest and most accepting. Despite my lack of familiarity with the language, practices, or dynamic structures, it felt like I had found my people at last. Being “little” is more of a character trait than a hat I wear during a
The Art Of Asking For Help As A Submissive
Wow. Sitting here at a computer, writing for the Academy again. It feels: surreal. Amazing. And also completely terrifying. The words don’t come as easy as they once did, yet this is the very moment I have been fighting to get back to for the past year. See, this past year I was fighting a cancer which, up until a month or so ago, I
Creating Boundaries From Scratch
My upbringing didn’t prepare me for the concept of boundaries. Instead, I learned that privacy was seen as a negative and equated to secrecy. I also learned that self-sacrifice was one of the cornerstones of love and that to say no to someone you loved made you a mean, evil person. Needless to say, I left home primed and ready for victimhood, codependent relationships, and
The Seduction of Abduction Play
The bag is pulled roughly over my head as strong arms lift me unceremoniously from the ground. I’m manhandled into the back of a vehicle, pushed to the floor, and held down as my wrists and ankles are tightly bound.
I let out a panicked scream and a large hand clamps my mouth shut. Through the rough material, I can hear a muffled male voice telling
How to Master Fingering Fun
My head rests on the red pad of the St Andrew’s Cross, my wrists and ankles fastened tightly, as my Sir delivers a paddling to redden my cheeks. I squirm a little, the impact stings, but it’s also making me very wet. Sexual tension bubbles as I try to catch Sir’s eye. I’m hoping he will read my mind and indulge me by bringing this
Submissive Self-Collaring
When I first found the kink world, I suppose what I was looking for was direction. As a submissive, little, and pet, having a guardian in the lifestyle and life was something that appealed to me. What I discovered after finding myself in lackluster partnerships, toxic pairings, and uncomfortable situations was that a part of me was looking for someone to lead me because I
Starting A BDSM Scene
My first experience crafting a scene with a submissive partner was a disaster. I read somewhere that you should have the submissive say some sort of repetitive mantra to begin the scene. The idea was to get her to have positive affirmation about being submissive to me and… whatever.
She was just not into it, the whole thing got derailed from the beginning, and I scrambled
Kink Healing: Part 2
A continuation of kink healing part 1 to delve deeper into understanding the potential healing power of kink.
When I first found BDSM I had many misconceptions about the potential of the lifestyle. I was under the impression BDSM was just a fun bedroom activity to escape the real world and that it could be a place to connect with other “freaks” like myself. While there
Submissive Training Lesson 1: Communication
Submissive Training Lesson: Discover the three submissive holes that must be open and available for the Dominant’s use at all times
Why Flogging Is My Favorite Impact Play
A submissive girl I met at a munch invited me to my first play party. As my evening began, I was full of hopes and dreams and countless fantasies, but exceptionally short on experience. Not only did I learn a lot on that evening, but I got to play for the first time too. And that experience created a lifelong love of impact play that
Kink Healing
The kink lifestyle has always been incredibly fruitful for me. I’ve been able to explore myself sexually, discover what makes me tick, and been able to tap into pleasures I never knew could exist. Beyond the physical pleasure, I’ve been fortunate enough to have found a place of healing within the kink lifestyle. I am someone who has suffered from mental health illness since my
