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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
I continually receive emails and comments at The BDSM Training Academy about how BDSM is a form of abuse. I find it very upsetting, especially when we try so hard to educate people on how to incorporate a safe, sane and consensual form of BDSM here at the Academy. BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship.
The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self.
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101 Submissive Tasks
Service-Oriented Tasks: Household ChoresWhat: Cleaning, tidying, and maintaining the home.Expectations: Perform tasks like washing dishes, vacuuming, or laundry to a high standard.Why: To instill a sense of responsibility and care.Lesson: Service is an important part of submission; it teaches humility and dedication. Meal PreparationWhat: Planning, cooking, and serving meals.Expectations: Prepare meals as per the Dominant’s dietary preferences.Why: To show attentiveness to the Dominant’s needs.Lesson: Thoughtful
Support Your Local Dungeon in a Meaningful and Impactful Way
This article is partly dedicated to a young man that reached out to me in an inspiring display of vulnerability. The clear frustration and desperation in the tone of his message made me wonder what he had endured leading up to that point. He reached out to ask me how he can meaningfully engage with our local community. I’m admittedly awestruck by this question because
How To Safeguard Your Identity in The Lifestyle
Imagine walking into a room full of strangers who all share a common interest in a complex and exciting game. Everyone is friendly, and the atmosphere feels welcoming, even fun. You watch people showcase their skills and interact with enthusiasm. However, while the gathering looks harmless on the surface, the game’s stakes are much higher than you initially realize. Behind the friendly smiles and casual
Why Kink?
The beauty of a power dynamic is in its power to heal. To share in a partnership where there is a flow of power in a beautiful movement called love. With one in control and the other surrendering control, all while being totally in love, is powerful beyond what words can express. And another to sink into the feeling their partner has them completely and
Common Misconceptions Among BDSM Community Newbies
Imagine this: After years of deliberations, internal conflict, and searching, you have finally decided to dip your toe into the realm of BDSM. Lucky for you, you have found a common soul who has also expressed a desire for the taboo. Your interactions with this special someone go splendidly, leading up to two scenarios: 1) you both continue on your merry way to privately explore
BDSM Protocols: Part 2 – Discovering Your Own Protocols
Dirk Hooper continues his exploration of protocols with part 2, drawing on over thirty years of experience to guide you in creating customized BDSM protocols that meet your relationship’s needs and desires.
Putting PTSD In the Corner
Ever since I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD back in 2020, I have felt like there was a label, or constant worry which I couldn’t shake. This was also when I realized just how healing BDSM can be for someone with trauma which haunts them like Gasper the unfriendly ghost. I had just begun working with a disciplinarian and entering an amazing relationship with a
To Submit or Not to Submit: After Suffering Trauma
How to Build a New BDSM Dynamic After Trauma It’s an unfortunate fact in our lifestyle that many (if not most) Submissives will have at least one experience with a “Dom” that leaves a bad taste in their mouth. Fake Doms are a common threat lurking on the fringes of our community, and involvement with one can easily lead to a Submissive rethinking their role
Part 1: A Holistic Approach To Aftercare
I consider “aftercare” to be a ritual or activity that helps both parties reorient themselves to the real world after a scene. In my experience, it’s a brief activity that happens before the “goodbyes” or a transitional activity between other events. In comparison, what I call “holistic aftercare” includes reorientation activities and rituals extending beyond the scene’s immediate end. It includes not only post-scene activities
Pitfalls of New BDSM Relationships: How to Avoid Them, Or Climb Back Out of Them
Ask any veteran submissive tips on how to get started and you will hear three common themes: avoid submitting too soon, have limits, and don’t confine yourself to a label. Yet, veterans and newbies alike seem to take the do-not-do list and turn it into our things to-do list. In the heat and sexiness of scening, we end up on our knees handing our submission
Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM
Hidden behind a veil of intrigue and misconceptions, the world of BDSM calls to us with its complexities and secret desires. “Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM” is a journey into the heart of a lifestyle that defies stereotypes and invites us to explore the boundaries of human connection and consent.
We live in a society where preconceived notions often obscure the truth. But
New Year Fresh Start Kinkster Style
We all hear vanilla people talking about their resolutions this time of year: lose weight, eat healthier, get more confidence, spend more time with family. But what about our kinky side. What resolutions do you have for yourself this year. Eat more pussy? Spend more time doing vanilla things a kinky way? Or are you rewriting your contracts from years past. Trying out new kinks
