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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
Better understand the difference between BDSM and abuse and why it is so important to understand the difference. Click Here to Read ->
The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. Learn how to tell the real Dominants from the fakers. Click Here to Read ->
101 Submissive Tasks
Get over 100 submissive tasks to help those new to the lifestyle quickly find ideas to help them expand their training and Dom/sub relationship Click Here to Read ->
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Red Flags to Look for New D/s Relationships
Isn’t it amazing when you finally understand and discover your identity in the world of BDSM. Perhaps you’ve discovered you’re a Switch, a Brat tamer or a rope bunny? The list is pretty endless after all, and its super exciting and liberating! So how does this coincide with seeking a new dynamic? Well, being confident with our sexual identity is often what makes us ready
BDSM Protocols: Part 4 – Vigilance, Monitoring, Rewards & Punishment
As much fun as BDSM protocols are, they take dedication from both partners. Much of the value in protocols is that you have activities and rules that are going to be running in the submissive’s head and that’s a powerful way of reinforcing a submissive state of mind. In part four of this series, I’ll be discussing some less enjoyable aspects, most of which will
Part 1: The Art of Being a Brat: Playfulness, Consent, and Connection
Introduction to Brat Play Brat Play: A Playful Approach to BDSM Dynamics My Dominant and I cleared the living room, pushing furniture aside until the large, soft floral rug lay open between us. We took our positions on opposite sides, crouched and ready, our eyes locked in a playful yet competitive stare. The challenge hung thick in the air, unspoken but understood: I was determined
BDSM Protocols: Part 3 – Implementing Protocols
Before we get going on implanting protocols, I want to make sure you read the two previous articles I wrote on the subject. In part one I looked at the definitions and origins of protocols, how they found their way from the military into the Old Guard BDSM players, what protocol levels are, and my own experiences with protocols. You can read the first part
Myth-busting Watersports Kink
Possibly the most misunderstood fetish of all time Content warning ahead: We’re going to talk about pee, we’re going to talk about it a lot, and we’re going to learn new things together. If you’re reluctant to do so and this is too much information for you, maybe think about coming back another time? Piss play (AKA Watersports) is a whole little wing of fetishes
Spreading Kinky Holiday Cheer
Baking is such a wonderful way to bring some kinky cheer to the holiday season. The problem is that Frosty is a bit of a ginger snap brat, so I need you to come up with some captions for what you think old Frosty is thinking. Just leave a comment below with your most inspired kinky caption for Frosty the Masochist. I look forward to
101 Submissive Tasks
When I first began my journey into BDSM, learning the technical skills took time, but once I knew what I wanted to learn, it was all a matter of time and practice to become a proficient practitioner. When I started, I found it more difficult to think up creative and enticing tasks for a submissive to keep them on their toes, strengthen the bond, and
Support Your Local Dungeon in a Meaningful and Impactful Way
This article is partly dedicated to a young man that reached out to me in an inspiring display of vulnerability. The clear frustration and desperation in the tone of his message made me wonder what he had endured leading up to that point. He reached out to ask me how he can meaningfully engage with our local community. I’m admittedly awestruck by this question because
How To Safeguard Your Identity in The Lifestyle
Imagine walking into a room full of strangers who all share a common interest in a complex and exciting game. Everyone is friendly, and the atmosphere feels welcoming, even fun. You watch people showcase their skills and interact with enthusiasm. However, while the gathering looks harmless on the surface, the game’s stakes are much higher than you initially realize. Behind the friendly smiles and casual
Why Kink?
The beauty of a power dynamic is in its power to heal. To share in a partnership where there is a flow of power in a beautiful movement called love. With one in control and the other surrendering control, all while being totally in love, is powerful beyond what words can express. And another to sink into the feeling their partner has them completely and
Common Misconceptions Among BDSM Community Newbies
Imagine this: After years of deliberations, internal conflict, and searching, you have finally decided to dip your toe into the realm of BDSM. Lucky for you, you have found a common soul who has also expressed a desire for the taboo. Your interactions with this special someone go splendidly, leading up to two scenarios: 1) you both continue on your merry way to privately explore
BDSM Protocols: Part 2 – Discovering Your Own Protocols
Dirk Hooper continues his exploration of protocols with part 2, drawing on over thirty years of experience to guide you in creating customized BDSM protocols that meet your relationship’s needs and desires.
