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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
I continually receive emails and comments at The BDSM Training Academy about how BDSM is a form of abuse. I find it very upsetting, especially when we try so hard to educate people on how to incorporate a safe, sane and consensual form of BDSM here at the Academy. BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship.
The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self.
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Behavior Modification: My Thirst for Self-Improvement
My nose sits uncomfortably close to the smooth baby blue bedroom wall and my eyes are drawn to the tiny spider that’s edging its way to the corner. I’m itching to shift my weight from foot to foot and stretch my arms toward the ceiling, but I don’t. Instead, I sigh inwardly and mentally run through the events that led to the extended period of
What I Learned as a Submissive Helped Me be a Better Dominant
I was sweeping the lobby of a dungeon in Dallas when a sudden burst of emotion overtook me, and I began to cry. It wasn’t sadness, but an overarching swell of what I was doing, who I was doing it for, and a deep sense of presence in that moment. Over the course of the last 20 plus years I’ve been a member of the
BDSM Lifestyle 101: Making Your Fantasy a Reality
I will forever remember the day I realized the lifestyle I had only ever dreamed possible, was actually my reality. Way back in December 2014, I knelt before my Sir, lifted my hair into a ponytail, and felt the titanium of my collar lock around my neck. I was in Heaven. Pure bliss. And couldn’t believe my fantasies were now a reality–and how in love
Heightened Hogtie Pleasures
As a Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist, I counsel individuals and couples in overcoming barriers they may be experiencing with orgasm. Guiding individuals through experiences to ensure that they experience their best orgasm. In BDSM different positions can be utilized to not only bring on a different state of mind, but different types of orgasms and sensations that can release a new kind of energy and pleasure.
Refocusing Harmful Traits
While navigating the kink space, I’ve experienced many moments of vulnerability. Moments that shed light on some toxic traits that I wasn’t aware I possessed. A toxic trait, at least how I define it, is anything that is detrimental to yourself or another person in a relationship. All I knew is that these weren’t traits that I wanted to keep.
A submissive girl’s guide to drawing out the Dominant in your partner
So, what do we do when we find ourselves out of sync with our partners? When we want to deepen our submission, or switch from a top to a bottom and our partners are not on the same page?
Being dominated is one of the most common fantasies, especially in people who identify as woman. The most common themes of sexual submission
Servant Leadership for the Alpha Submissive
The first time I heard the term “alpha submissive” it resonated with me immediately. It was described as the woman boss who doesn’t back down in the corporate world but once she’s behind closed doors, the pumps come off and the collar goes on. An independent woman who doesn’t need a man but always needs her Daddy.
Conceptually it made sense to me, but when I
Separating Punishment and Funishment
Punishment and funishment are a dynamic duo of kinks to include in a dynamic, especially for a sadist-masochist combo. Punishment is the type of response a submissive wants to avoid having to experience, whereas funishment is role-play that is yearned for because of the pleasure and intensity it can bring. Basically, punishment a rule or protocol has been broken and there is real a correction
Reclaiming Femininity Through Submission
Something that I appreciate about the kink world is that there is space to explore myself to the fullest extent. I get to define my own meaning, discover hidden layers through play, and choose how I express myself in a non-judgmental community. Throughout my kink journey, I’ve come to understand what femininity looks like for me as well as found space to relish and lean
Submissive Task: What Do You Want?
As you continue to learn and grow in your submissive journey, it is essential that you know what you desire, but what it is you want and need to nourish your submission. Without understanding this, you will find your submissive desires being starved and suppressed, instead of rejoiced and nurtured.
For the only way for anyone in this world to get what it is that they
Living Little In BDSM
Being a 24/7 little is something I love about myself because it gives me a chance to practice self-compassion and serves as an outlet from the realities of adulthood in a safe manner. Sometimes though, it can be difficult if I fall into littlespace at inopportune times and it can be especially challenging during times when I don’t have a caregiver to interact with. That
Aural in BDSM
These days it’s not difficult to turn on the internet and get turned on. In the world of endless content, its not hard to get hard. As porn continues to transition in the age of only fans, and erotic literature rides the 50 shades wave, so too erotic audio has found its niche in rise of the podcast and audio book. What is erotic audio?
