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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
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The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
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101 Submissive Tasks
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To Submit or Not to Submit: After Suffering Trauma
How to Build a New BDSM Dynamic After Trauma It’s an unfortunate fact in our lifestyle that many (if not most) Submissives will have at least one experience with a “Dom” that leaves a bad taste in their mouth. Fake Doms are a common threat lurking on the fringes of our community, and involvement with one can easily lead to a Submissive rethinking their role
Part 1: A Holistic Approach To Aftercare
I consider “aftercare” to be a ritual or activity that helps both parties reorient themselves to the real world after a scene. In my experience, it’s a brief activity that happens before the “goodbyes” or a transitional activity between other events. In comparison, what I call “holistic aftercare” includes reorientation activities and rituals extending beyond the scene’s immediate end. It includes not only post-scene activities
Pitfalls of New BDSM Relationships: How to Avoid Them, Or Climb Back Out of Them
Ask any veteran submissive tips on how to get started and you will hear three common themes: avoid submitting too soon, have limits, and don’t confine yourself to a label. Yet, veterans and newbies alike seem to take the do-not-do list and turn it into our things to-do list. In the heat and sexiness of scening, we end up on our knees handing our submission
Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM
Hidden behind a veil of intrigue and misconceptions, the world of BDSM calls to us with its complexities and secret desires. “Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM” is a journey into the heart of a lifestyle that defies stereotypes and invites us to explore the boundaries of human connection and consent.
We live in a society where preconceived notions often obscure the truth. But
New Year Fresh Start Kinkster Style
We all hear vanilla people talking about their resolutions this time of year: lose weight, eat healthier, get more confidence, spend more time with family. But what about our kinky side. What resolutions do you have for yourself this year. Eat more pussy? Spend more time doing vanilla things a kinky way? Or are you rewriting your contracts from years past. Trying out new kinks
The Obsession with Spanking Scenes In Film
“Spanking, Always Up For A Bit of Spanking!” Discovering Spanko Sexualities Through TV and Film It’s a commonality among spankos that one or twice in our lives, we’ve watched spanking scenes on TV. Quite often, some of our first memories of spanking are of us being very young and witnessing a spanking scene in a TV show or film when we were innocently minding our
What Life is Like as a Collared and Owned Male Submissive
My life as a collared, owned, obedient, live-in, submissive houseboy to a dominant, authoritative Mistress began back in October of 2021 when we met for our first date. We’d connected through a dating app a few days earlier and had hit it off immediately with exciting, witty and tantalising banter. We agreed to meet quite soon after for a get-to-know-you drink because She lived in
A Fetish for Fitness
As a submissive in a 24/7 TPE relationship, I enjoy meeting the expectations of my Dominant. I strive to please him, I obey commands, I accept discipline and I serve, all of which require dedication and effort. I do enjoy the lifestyle we lead, but it’s not always easy. I find it helps if I’m feeling tip-top, and that means looking after my mental and
How to Embrace Submission in Your Vanilla Life
The vanilla world is one realm where Dominants can often have less presence or influence in their submissive’s life, intentional or not. Unless you live with your Dominant in a 24/7 dynamic or your Dominant is often physically with you, the majority of vanilla situations in your life will likely occur without your Dominant’s immediate presence or guidance. This can be for better or worse!
BDSM Protocols: Part 1 – Introduction
I feel like the least-likely guy on the Earth to write an article on BDSM protocols. It’s a subject that has fascinated me since I first discovered how kinky I was, and something I’ve studied since the 90s. But, it’s also been a subject that I always figured was too large and too complex, or just something that I didn’t have enough experience to write
How To Respect And Follow Your Dominant’s Guidance In Their Absence In Kinky Situations
The presence of a Dominant can be hugely comforting in public. Having their guidance and being able to follow their lead in real time can relieve the stress and pressure of making decisions! But sadly our Dominants can’t follow us everywhere (or vice versa!) and often we must operate without their immediate guidance.
So let’s talk about how you as a submissive can respect and
Communication Standards for Submissives & Littles
The Importance of Effective Communication Effective communication is an important pillar of any healthy relationship. I’ve found that the communication skills I’ve gained through my Teacher/student kink dynamic have helped me improve my ability to communicate in other areas of my life. Learning to better express myself has made all the difference, not only in my romantic relationships but also in platonic, familial, and professional
