Before W/we look at what makes a good submissive you must first take into consideration the seriousness of the role/position you are choosing to apply within your life. If you want to incorporate some very light Domination/submission role play within the bedroom only and or at very select times, then this section is not focused on you.
However, if you want to incorporate more Domination/submission training sessions into your life and you want to serve a Dominant, then you have much to consider. Before you choose to make submission and service a more focused or centered part of your life you must first determine if you and your existing life are ready for such a serious undertaking.
1) Are you a mature individual capable of having serious mature adult relationships with friends, and family? Do you have previous experience being a part of successful romantic relationships? You need to know that you are capable of having and maintaining healthy relationships within your life (platonic, generic and romantic) before entering into service.
2) Are you financially independent? Are you able to support yourself financially? Are you capable of housing, clothing and feeding yourself without the financial support of someone else?
3) Are you in a good place mentally and emotionally? You must be happy with your life before you can ever choose to serve. Serving a Dominant will not make you happy; it’s something that you can incorporate into an already happy life. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, serving a Dominant will not help. It will only mask the pain you are feeling for a short period of time.
4) Are you physically healthy? This does not mean skinny. Everybody has a different body, so don’t measure your health by how you look, but instead by how you feel. At the same time, health does not mean I feel fine today, yet you do nothing to ensure you remain healthy or improve your health for the long term. Do you take care of your health on a regular basis and are you capable of maintaining your health? Do you regularly exercise and eat a healthy diet? Do you sleep properly and visit your Physician for routine wellness exams?
Being submissive is essentially about CHOICE. A submissive is choosing to enter into the service of a Dominant. That choice as with most life choices comes with many responsibilities and should never be made without the proper consideration. What many people don’t understand is, if you do not have control of the four essential life skills (discussed above), then you are not ready to serve a Dominant and you have forfeited your freedom to choose to do so. You cannot give what you do not posses, so if you do not possess control of your life how can you give it to another? If your life is not whole, then you don’t have what you need to be to make the choice to be submissive.
Being unable to look after yourself financially, being unhappy because you are not in a relationship, being unhappy with the way you look or constantly feeling tired, depressed or feeling unwell. This all brings in complex dynamics that should not be a part of a Dominant/submissive relationship. Therefore until you have your life under control, you are not able to give authority and control over your life to anybody else.
Taking proper care of yourself and your life is a reflection of the care and service you will give to your Dominant and the enhancements you are able to bring to the Dominant/submissive—-role/dynamic/relationship.
Always make the choice to be submissive from a position of strength not weakness. Your strength and positive life skills will provide you with a good foundation for what is needed to take care of yourself while in service and to feel more comfortable physically and emotionally to express desires, and concerns with training to your Dominant.
Weakness and negative life skills will have you doing what you feel you have to because you have no other option in life. That is not choosing to be submissive/slave that is you forcing yourself into an unhealthy and potentially dangerous position in life.
Lastly, a Dominant needs and wants a partner. That partner may be submissive, but they are still a partner within the relationship. A person capable and responsible for helping and adding as much to the relationship, roles and dynamics as the Dominant.
