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Fear Play in BDSM: How to Scare Your Partner Without Freaking Them Out

A lot of submissives enjoy feeling a degree of fear during BDSM. They get a thrill from the rush of anticipation, intensity, and suspense in the same way others might while skydiving or watching horror movies. A sexual experience that feels dangerous, but not so dangerous that we’ll walk away harmed or traumatized, can be an exciting adventure when shared in a controlled environment with a dom we admire. Going through an emotion-charged journey like that together can also strengthen the bonds of affection and trust.

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Informed Consent Before You Play With BDSM

What’s Informed Consent and Why Is It Important In BDSM?

Dominant Male Training, Dominatrix Training, female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

The word ‘consent’ comes up constantly in conversations about kink. People often tout it as the core element that separates BDSM from abuse. While this is true, the word by itself doesn’t go far enough to help practitioners, especially those just starting out, protect themselves and one another from potential problems.

The term ‘informed consent’ was first used in the medical field and is considered fundamental to ethics and laws regarding patient rights. It describes the process that requires doctors to provide information about possible side effects and other risks before they elicit permission to provide a particular treatment.

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8 Ways to Help Your Dom Feel Comfortable Exploring BDSM More Deeply

female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

We often like to think of doms as the sexy, invincible superheroes of our fantasies. To be led through our BDSM journey by someone calm, confident, and in charge puts us at ease, allowing us to open up and explore in spite of our nervousness or vulnerability. The reality, of course, is that dom-identifying kinksters are human like the rest of us and need help along the way from time to time. If you’re a submissive looking to take your dynamic to a deeper level, here are 8 ways you can help your dom feel comfortable as they lead the way.

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Setting Up Dom Sub Relationship For Success

10 Tips to Set Up a New D/s Relationship for Success

Dominant Male Training, Dominatrix Training, female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

The beginning of a relationship is a fragile time. One or both partners may still be on the fence as they learn each other’s quirks, preferences, triggers, world views, and all the rest. The first few intimate encounters usually involve some level of stress, regardless of how smoothly or erotically those sessions unfold. We want to think of falling in love as a magical process,

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No Hitting! 10 Painful, Impact-free Ways to Please a Masochist

Dominant Male Training, Dominatrix Training, female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

Spanking, paddling, whipping, caning, mmm YUMMY. Words like these are music to a masochist’s ears. Well, some masochists, anyway. Believe it or not, there are those who don’t like to be hit. They may have experienced prior trauma related to hitting. Others simply don’t enjoy the sensation. In cases like these, doms must get creative. Whether your sub dislikes impact or you’re simply seeking additional

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Make the Most of Your BDSM Skills During Lockdown

Dominant Male Training, Dominatrix Training, female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

Welp, there’s no nice way of saying it. These are challenging times! Our individual and collective futures are loaded with uncertainty, and feeling isolated from those we love doesn’t help. Luckily for us kinky types, we already hold a number of valuable skills that can help us thrive through these tense periods of lockdown. Here’s how you can make the most of them. Sharing is

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Learn To Compartmentalize Your BDSM Self

Dominant Male Training, Dominatrix Training, female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

Much of what we do in BDSM involves roleplay, and not just the ‘strict teacher / naughty student’ dress-up variety. Simply acting as the top or bottom in a scene is a role in itself, complete with its own responsibilities, energy, and intentions. The more we’re able to immerse ourselves in the headspace of our role during play, the more powerful the experience becomes.

The intense experiences we have during play have the potential to transform our everyday lives, for better or worse. For BDSM to be a healthy practice, it’s crucial that we refine our ability to cleanly separate fantasy from reality. Learning to compartmentalize BDSM will allow you to reap the benefits of kinky sexploration while continuing to function harmoniously outside the bedroom.

If we don’t learn to compartmentalize, BDSM can end up negatively impacting our psychological state, our relationships, and even our career.

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Navigating BDSM After Abuse

female submissive training, Male Submissive Training / By Molly Lazarus

It took me over a decade to stop blaming myself for choosing the man who would become my abuser. I had a million reasons in my mind for why my trauma was either my fault or illegitimate. Please learn from my experiences so you can better navigate BDSM after suffering abuse.

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Molly Lazarus

Fear Play in BDSM: How to Scare Your Partner Without Freaking Them Out

8 Ways to Help Your Dom Feel Comfortable Exploring BDSM More Deeply

10 Tips to Set Up a New D/s Relationship for Success

No Hitting! 10 Painful, Impact-free Ways to Please a Masochist

Make the Most of Your BDSM Skills During Lockdown

Learn To Compartmentalize Your BDSM Self

Navigating BDSM After Abuse

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