Make the Most of Your BDSM Skills During Lockdown

Welp, there’s no nice way of saying it. These are challenging times! Our individual and collective futures are loaded with uncertainty, and feeling isolated from those we love doesn’t help.

Luckily for us kinky types, we already hold a number of valuable skills that can help us thrive through these tense periods of lockdown. Here’s how you can make the most of them.

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Planning

We have no idea how the next few months or years will pan out, but we can do our best to prepare. You may now be thinking about growing your own produce, finding a remote job, or creating a source of passive income somehow. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, that’s understandable, but don’t worry! Doms are natural planners, and we’ve all got at least a bit of that dominant energy inside us. Embrace the urge to be proactive and set strategies in place.

Creativity

Lockdown is a great time to make art. The process of creation inspires fresh feelings of hope and excitement. Paint something sexy and explosive. Try your hand at writing erotica and share it with all your horny kinky friends who are stuck climbing the walls at home. “But I’m not the artsy type!” I don’t believe you. I bet your brain would come up with all sorts of interesting ideas if you had a willing sub kneeling at your feet. I’ve never met a competent top who ran out of ideas. So go on, express yourself!

Leadership

In times of fear, confusion, and grief, competent leadership is a huge source of comfort and support. None of us can constantly be on top of our game while coronavirus is running rife, but the domly ‘doer’ inside you can step up and take initiative when you’re feeling up to it. Those around you who are having a hard time and in need of emotional support will appreciate it. They’ll also be better equipped to take the reins and support you when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Caretaking

Throughout lockdown, the best thing we can do is take care of ourselves and each other. Contrary to popular belief, dominance is all about caretaking, so go ahead and tap into those mushy nurturing instincts. What do the people around you need? A lot of the time, it just boils down to your presence and reassurance. “I’m not going anywhere. We’ll get through this together, don’t worry.” Those words may not feel like much in the face of hardship, but can mean the world to your loved ones if you truly mean them.

Keeping Balance

Balancing all the different aspects of a kinky session is a dominant’s job. Much in the same way, balance is crucial to sustaining our physical and mental health during lockdown. It may be tempting to lie around watching TV all day eating snacky snacks, but this is a sure path to mopiness and depression. Are you getting enough exercise? Water? Veggies? Quality sleep? Call upon the dom inside you to play the role of ‘responsible adult’.

Acceptance

Submission is largely about developing the courage to give up control. At times, our doms may put us through challenging tasks or punishments. By accepting and getting through them, we build tenacity and intimacy with our partner. The virus also requires acceptance. There are many things about Covid that we can’t control or fully understand at this time. What we can control is how we respond to the difficulties life lays at our feet.

Patience

Patience is an important aspect of submission as well. We can’t be the ones to get up and take action while our tops are supposed to be leading. That spoils all the fun! Instead, we must wait and see what they deliver. Likewise, lockdown is allllll about patience. How long will this craziness last? When will life resemble ‘normal’ again? Who knows! For now, we must do our best and wait to see what reality delivers.

Confronting Pain

Learning to deal with pain can be an enriching aspect of submission. There’s no escaping the discomfort of a spanking while it’s happening, is there? Emotional pain is easier to push away, but cannot be ignored entirely if you want to truly be free of it. Covid and lockdown are testing us all emotionally. Confronting uncomfortable feelings of anger, sadness, or loneliness can help you push through and enjoy periods of peace and productivity, rather than piling on additional stress.

Being of Service

Subs love to serve. It’s what we do! How can you serve others during lockdown? It could be as simple as reaching out to friends and offering emotional support. You might also offer to shop for at-risk neighbors when you venture out to the grocery store. Some people out there are sewing masks for those who need them. Make the most of whatever skills you have to offer. Everyone will appreciate your help!

Adapting to Circumstances

If you’ve ever had the type of dom who likes keeping people on their toes, you’ll know that submission requires adaptability. To be able to shift your focus and adjust to changing conditions is a superpower. With Covid, the situation changes every day and the sub inside you can be a source of great strength. It makes sense to fear the big changes coming to us on the horizon. We shall cross those bridges when we come to them!

Playfulness

Kinksters all have at least one thing in common: our love of play! BDSM can be a serious affair at times, but at its core, it’s about bringing our fantasies to life. This helps relieve stress, build connection, and keep our hopes high. We need this spirit of playfulness now, perhaps more than we ever have in our lifetimes. Find time to lure out your inner child as often as possible during this crisis.

While there’s no safeword to end this quarantine (Wouldn’t that be nice though?!) Until it’s safe to ease restrictions wherever we are, we can make the most of our strengths to get through this together.

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Make the Most of Your BDSM Skills During Lockdown

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Channel Your Inner Dominant

Planning

Creativity

Leadership

Caretaking

Keeping Balance

Summon your inner submissive

Acceptance

Patience

Confronting Pain

Being of Service

Adapting to Circumstances

And the final skill Doms and subs both share...

Playfulness

By Molly Lazarus

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