We’re closing in on the final part of this series about BDSM Protocols. But before we wrap up, I want to encourage you to reach out with your questions and ideas for anything I haven’t covered yet. It’s entirely possible that I missed something unique, or a special type of protocol that means a lot to you. If you have any comments or questions about […]
There are so many reasons that I didn’t start with this list of ideas. The main reason is that I wanted to give you a broad overview of what goes into good protocols. The absolute last thing I wanted you to do is come here, grab a gob of these and march into a relationship disaster! I wanted you to know what protocols, rules and
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I read Marquis de Sade when I was 13 years old. It wasn’t what I was looking for, but it was what I could find, at the time, about BDSM. Once I figured out what I was into, I wanted more information. I was ravenous for it. And so, I started with the Marquis. A few years later I found Anne Rice’s “Sleeping Beauty” series
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As much fun as BDSM protocols are, they take dedication from both partners. Much of the value in protocols is that you have activities and rules that are going to be running in the submissive’s head and that’s a powerful way of reinforcing a submissive state of mind. In part four of this series, I’ll be discussing some less enjoyable aspects, most of which will
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Before we get going on implanting protocols, I want to make sure you read the two previous articles I wrote on the subject. In part one I looked at the definitions and origins of protocols, how they found their way from the military into the Old Guard BDSM players, what protocol levels are, and my own experiences with protocols. You can read the first part
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Dirk Hooper continues his exploration of protocols with part 2, drawing on over thirty years of experience to guide you in creating customized BDSM protocols that meet your relationship’s needs and desires.
BDSM Protocols: Part 2 – Discovering Your Own Protocols Read More »
I feel like the least-likely guy on the Earth to write an article on BDSM protocols. It’s a subject that has fascinated me since I first discovered how kinky I was, and something I’ve studied since the 90s. But, it’s also been a subject that I always figured was too large and too complex, or just something that I didn’t have enough experience to write
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I traveled with my submissive to a public dungeon out-of-town and attended a great seminar followed by an open play session. I was inspired by the seminar to try some of the things that the presenter had mentioned. What followed was a fun session for us. It was an intense and challenging session for the submissive, but it was equally immersive and draining on me
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My first experience crafting a scene with a submissive partner was a disaster. I read somewhere that you should have the submissive say some sort of repetitive mantra to begin the scene. The idea was to get her to have positive affirmation about being submissive to me and… whatever.
She was just not into it, the whole thing got derailed from the beginning, and I scrambled to recover.
First times are fraught with complexity and questions and awkwardness, and BDSM first times are not exempt.
It’s easy to forget what it’s like when you finally find someone that wants to play (win!) and is going to let you be dominant (double win!). But then what do you do next?
I’m going to do my best to help you through starting a scene.
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A submissive girl I met at a munch invited me to my first play party. As my evening began, I was full of hopes and dreams and countless fantasies, but exceptionally short on experience. Not only did I learn a lot on that evening, but I got to play for the first time too. And that experience created a lifelong love of impact play that
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