Pushing Boundaries with Your Sub

A Dominant/slave relationship isn’t something that can be described as static. While your partner may not change for years at a time, that doesn’t mean the level of your relationship has to stay the same. In fact, as you and your slave work together, it’s a good idea to push each other’s boundaries to see just how deep you can take the relationship and the power structure. As a Dominant, you want to spend some time working on pushing the boundaries of your slave in order to ensure they are continuously learning and growing in their role.

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What are the Boundaries in Your Relationship?
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Before you can begin pushing your slave, you need to sit down with them and talk about what the contract between you already states. This will help you both to see what you think are the boundaries, whether they need to be changed, etc. Ideally, your slave should create a list of things they want, a list of things they never want, and a list of things they eventually want to try. The things they eventually want to try is the list that will help you see what boundaries you want to push. Since the slave is not necessarily comfortable with these items right now, you will be pushing their edges and making them grow in their role as a slave. Using other commands you might use for other tasks, you can see how they perform when they aren’t sure what’s going to happen next.

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Signs It’s Time to Push
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If you haven’t had the conversation about pushing the slave’s boundaries, you might notice that things need to change from the way they act. For example, you might begin to see these signs:

* They seem bored – If your slave begins to look bored during your sessions together, it’s time to change things up. You want your slave to be focused on you, not on the clock on the wall or their fingernails as you paddle them.

* Their responses are lifeless – When you begin to notice that your slave isn’t as enthusiastic or as energetic as they once were, it’s time to change things up. They need to be pushed a bit more to get that previous response.

* They move into position before you ask them to – You might be becoming too predictable if your slave begins to move into positions before you even ask them to. Now, this might also be the result of very good training, so you will need to differentiate between the two.

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A New System of Dominance
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Pushing boundaries can lead to a completely new system of dominance as well. For example, instead of being the domineering Dominant that barks orders, you might want to try being calmer and just more steady in the way you deliver tasks to your slave. While this might not seem like a way to push someone’s boundaries, if you change the way you act with your slave, they will not necessarily know what you are up to – which can make them more on edge than they have been in a while.

Or you might simply want to change the way you interact with your slave in a scene. You might ask for your slave’s trust as you push boundaries as you see fit, allowing them the chance to tell you to slow down or to stop if things get out of hand.

You want to push the boundaries of your slave because that’s the best way to see just how hard they can work and how much they can learn. No one wants to learn the same things again and again, so you need to make sure there’s always something new around the corner…and in the dungeon.

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Master Bishop

 

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