101 Submissive Tasks

When I first began my journey into BDSM, learning the technical skills took time, but once I knew what I wanted to learn, it was all a matter of time and practice to become a proficient practitioner.

When I started, I found it more difficult to think up creative and enticing tasks for a submissive to keep them on their toes, strengthen the bond, and encourage support and growth for the submissive.

That is why I listed out over 100 submissive tasks to help those new to the lifestyle quickly find ideas to help them expand their training and Dom/sub relationship. With that said, I have kept the tasks relatively brief to allow you, the reader, to develop the task to suit you and your partner’s needs and desires.

Just because a task idea has been listed does not mean a submissive must participate or that it should be assigned. No one method will suit all submissives, and not every task will work as intended with each submissive. It is important to discuss openly with your partner to ensure you know what they require before stepping into a deeper form of training.

As with all forms of BDSM, including the assigning of the tasks below, must be negotiated and agreed to by both partners. If you do not know how to negotiate your Dom/sub relationship, I would suggest reading up on ways to negotiate a BDSM relationship before reading or incorporating any tasks.

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Service-Oriented Tasks:

Household Chores

Task: Cleaning, tidying, and maintaining the home.
Expectations: Perform tasks like washing dishes, vacuuming, or laundry to a high standard.
Why: To instill a sense of responsibility and care.
Lesson: Service is an important part of submission; it teaches humility and dedication.

Meal Preparation

Task: Planning, cooking, and serving meals.
Expectations: Prepare meals as per the Dominant’s dietary preferences.
Why: To show attentiveness to the Dominant’s needs.
Lesson: Thoughtful service shows attention to detail and nurtures the relationship.

Running Errands

Task: Completing tasks like shopping, picking up dry cleaning, scheduling appointments, etc.
Expectations: Complete errands promptly and efficiently.
Why: To teach time management and efficiency.
Lesson: Shows the importance of prioritizing the Dominant’s needs in daily life.

Prepping Drinks

Task: Preparing the Dominant’s favorite drink at specified times.
Expectations: Serve drinks exactly as the Dominant prefers.
Why: It’s a simple yet meaningful service task that can show greater dedication to service.
Lesson: Small, thoughtful actions can deepen the dynamic and shows how small things can mean more than one expects.

Pet Care

Task: Caring for a pet, including feeding, walking, and cleaning up after them.
Expectations: Ensure the pet’s well-being and maintain consistency in care.
Why: Teaches responsibility and caring for something important to the Dominant and beyond oneself.
Lesson: Service goes beyond physical needs and into care and compassion.

Car Maintenance

Task: Cleaning the car, checking fluids, or scheduling service appointments.
Expectations: Complete tasks to ensure the car is clean, functional and running smoothly at all times.
Why: To ensure the Dominant’s comfort, convenience and safety.
Lesson: Service through maintenance shows reliability and attentiveness.

Meal Tracking

Task: Logging meals for nutritional tracking.
Expectations: Keep an accurate and honest log of meals consumed.
Why: To help the submissive stay healthy and accountable.
Lesson: Health and self-care are important forms of submission. One can not serve if one is not healthy enough to serve.

Workspace Organization

Task: Tidying up the Dominant’s desk or office space.
Expectations: Organize in a way that makes the Dominant’s workflow easier.
Why: To enhance productivity and reduce stress for the Dominant.
Lesson: Shows the importance of fostering a positive, efficient environment for the Dominant. Assists their ability to become more efficient in their work and creating a more positive environment for both.

Grocery List Planning

Task: Plan and create a grocery list based on the Dominant’s preferences.
Expectations: Ensure the list reflects the household’s needs.
Why: To demonstrate attentiveness and planning skills.
Lesson: Understanding the needs of the household is essential in service.

Garden Maintenance

Task: Caring for plants and outdoor spaces.
Expectations: Keep plants healthy and the garden clean.
Why:To instill responsibility and consistency in care with little short term change.
Lesson: Teaches nurturing skills and patience.

Organizing Digital Files

Task: Cleaning and organizing the Dominant’s digital files.
Expectations: Ensure folders and files are properly labeled and easy to access.
Why:To reduce clutter and enhance efficiency.
Lesson: Teaches attention to detail and organization.

Meal Planning for the Week

Task: Create a meal plan for the week.
Expectations: Ensure the plan reflects both the Dominant’s preferences and health goals.
Why:To show thoughtfulness in ensuring the Dominant’s meals are planned ahead.
Lesson: Planning ahead demonstrates care and dedication to the Dominant’s well-being.

Seasonal Cleaning

Task: Perform a deep clean or declutter the house each season.
Expectations: Clean areas that aren’t part of regular cleaning tasks, like windows, closets, etc.
Why:To maintain a tidy, stress-free environment for the Dominant.
Lesson: Consistent maintenance creates a pleasant living space, reinforcing the value of thorough service.

Protocol and Ritual Tasks:

Morning and Evening Check-Ins

Task: Send daily updates on feelings, thoughts, and completed tasks.
Expectations: Timely and honest communication.
Why: To maintain a regular routine of connection.
Lesson: Consistent communication builds trust and keeps the dynamic strong.

Wearing Symbols

Task: Wearing a symbolic item as a reminder of the dynamic. (e.g., collar, bracelet)
Expectations: Wear the item every day without fail.
Why: To create a constant reminder of submission.
Lesson: Physical symbols reinforce emotional commitment and identity within the dynamic.

Posture Training

Task: Practice specific submissive postures (e.g., kneeling, standing in a certain way).
Expectations: Hold the posture for a set amount of time each day.
Why: To teach patience, discipline, and focus.
Lesson: Physical postures reinforce emotional submission, creating a deeper connection.

Outfits of the Day Submission

Task: Submit a photo of the day’s outfit for approval.
Expectations: Wear the approved outfit throughout the day.
Why:To reinforce control and maintain the power dynamic.
Lesson: Dressing in service to the Dominant emphasizes submission even in daily life.

Greeting Rituals

Task: Greet the Dominant with specific phrases or gestures.
Expectations: Consistently greet the Dominant in the same respectful way.
Why: To reinforce respect and the power dynamic.
Lesson: Rituals create structure and demonstrate ongoing commitment.

Speech Restrictions

Task: Only speak when spoken to or use honorifics.
Expectations: Follow speech guidelines without fail.
Why: To instill discipline and reinforce the power dynamic.
Lesson: Teaches self-control and the importance of respectful communication.

Daily Sexual Gratitude

Task: Verbally or in writing, express sexual gratitude each day.
Expectations: Provide a genuine statement of sexual appreciation.
Why:To build intimacy and strengthen sexual connection.
Lesson: Gratitude fosters a stronger bond and reinforces desire.

Receiving Punishments

Task: Accept consequences for failing tasks or rules
Expectations: Accept punishments without complaint or resistance (if within agreed upon punishments)
Why: To correct behavior and reinforce accountability.
Lesson: Consequences teach responsibility and aid in personal development and growth.

Silence Protocols

Task: A period where the submissive remains silent, communicating only when necessary.
Expectations: Adhere to the rules of silence unless given permission to speak.
Why: To teach mindfulness and control.
Lesson: Silence encourages self-reflection and attentiveness.

Body Writing

Task: Write the Dominant’s name somewhere on the body daily. (e.g., writing the Dominant’s name on the body)
Expectations: Do this daily and in a respectful manner.
Why: To reinforce the Dominant’s ownership.
Lesson: A physical act of submission that deepens the emotional connection.

Remote Toy Use

Task: Use toys during long-distance play as instructed by the Dominant.
Expectations: Follow exact instructions and report experiences.
Why:To maintain control and intimacy from a distance.
Lesson: Teaches trust, obedience, and openness.

Bathing Rituals

Task:Follow specific instructions for how and when to bathe.
Expectations: Adhere to the set routine without fail.
Why: To create a ritual that emphasizes care and control.
Lesson: Teaches care for the body as an extension of submission.

Perfume or Fragrance Ritual

Task: Apply a fragrance chosen by the Dominant.
Expectations: Use the selected fragrance daily or as instructed.
Why: To reinforce the Dominant’s preferences.
Lesson: Even small choices, like scent, can be acts of submission.

Token of Devotion

Task: Present the Dominant with small gifts or gestures regularly.
Expectations: Present the token as a symbol of ongoing dedication.
Why: To show devotion in a tangible way.
Lesson:Acts of devotion strengthen the bond and remind the submissive of their commitment.

Physical and Wellness Tasks:

Attention

Always have a submissive consult with a doctor and professional before attempting any new kind of physical program.

Fitness Goals

Task: Create and follow a fitness plan tailored to the submissive’s physical health.
Expectations: Stick to the routine and provide regular progress updates.
Why: To ensure physical well-being, which is important for long-term submission, health and happiness.
Lesson: Physical health enhances the ability to serve and promotes discipline and resilience.

Exercise Routine

Task: Follow a daily or weekly exercise routine set by the Dominant.
Expectations: Complete all assigned exercises without skipping.
Why: Physical health is part of service, ensuring the submissive is fit and healthy enough to continue to serve.
Lesson: Teaches perseverance and the value of maintaining personal well-being.

Stretching Routine

Task: Perform daily stretches to improve flexibility and reduce stress.
Expectations: Dedicate time each day to completing the stretching routine.
Why: To promote physical relaxation and flexibility, essential for both mental and physical readiness.
Lesson: Encourages body awareness and the connection between physical and mental states.

Step Counting

Task: Track daily steps as part of a fitness regimen.
Expectations: Reach a specific step goal and report progress.
Why:To ensure the submissive is active and healthy.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of staying active and meeting/achieving personal goals.

Sleep Hygiene Improvement

Task:Follow a set sleep schedule to improve rest and overall health.
Expectations: Stick to the prescribed sleep schedule and report on quality of sleep.
Why: To ensure the submissive is well-rested and prepared for tasks.
Lesson: Reinforces the importance of self-care in maintaining service readiness.

Hydration Tracker

Task: Track daily water intake.
Expectations: Drink a specific amount of water each day and log it.
Why: To ensure physical health and focus.
Lesson: Staying hydrated promotes health, demonstrating the value of taking care of oneself for service.

Skincare Routine

Task: Follow a skincare routine set by the Dominant.
Expectations: Consistently use specific products to maintain skin health.
Why: To emphasize self-care , respect and pride in one's appearanc.
Lesson: Teaches care for the body as a form of submission, and self-respect.

Hair Styling

Task: Style hair in a specific way as directed by the Dominant.
Expectations: Follow styling instructions to the letter.
Why: To ensure the submissive is presenting themselves according to the Dominant’s preferences.
Lesson: Personal grooming becomes an act of submission and attentiveness to the Dominant’s desires.

Sleep Monitoring

Task: Track and report sleep patterns to ensure proper rest.
Expectations: Provide daily updates on sleep quality and quantity.
Why: To ensure the submissive is physically and mentally prepared for tasks.
Lesson: Good rest is crucial for maintaining the ability to serve well.

Sexual and Intimacy Tasks:

Orgasm Control

Task: Ask for permission to orgasm.
Expectations: Follow strict rules regarding when and how to orgasm, only when granted permission.
Why: To assert control over the submissive’s body.
Lesson: Teaches self-restraint, patience, and obedience.

Sexual Reporting

Task:Report any sexual activity or masturbation to the Dominant.
Expectations: Provide honest and detailed reports about sexual experiences.
Why: To maintain transparency and reinforce control over sexual behavior.
Lesson: Fosters trust and honesty in intimate matters.

Sexual Control

Task: Ask for permission to be allowed to participate in any form of sexual activity (eg masturbation, play with a particular toy, etc.)
Expectations: Follow strict rules regarding when and how to engage in any kind of sexual activity, and only when granted permission.
Why: To assert control over the submissive’s body.
Lesson: Teaches self-restraint, patience, obedience and that all pleasure is derived from a sole source.

Remote Movie Night

Task: Watch a movie selected by the Dominant at the same time.
Expectations: Watch the movie together and engage in discussion afterward.
Why: To maintain connection and shared experiences even at a distance.
Lesson: Teaches the value of shared time and attention to each other’s preferences.

Daily Heartfelt Message

Task: Send a meaningful message expressing gratitude, love, or admiration to the Dominant.
Expectations: Send the message at a designated time each day.
Why: To reinforce emotional connection and communication.
Lesson: Consistent expressions of appreciation help strengthen emotional intimacy.

Acts Of Worship

Task: Take time to show gratitude and appreciation for your Dominant.
Expectations: Take time each day to mindfulness to connect with the essence of your Dominant.
Why: To show gratitude and respect for your Dominant and the opportunity you have to be in their presence.
Lesson: Appreciation, Gratitude and Respect for your Dominant and the environment you are in.

Emotional and Reflective Tasks:

Journaling

Task: Keep a journal documenting thoughts, emotions, and growth in submission.
Expectations: Write detailed entries regularly and share with the Dominant if required.
Why: To encourage self-reflection and track personal development.
Lesson: Reflecting on submission deepens understanding and awareness of one’s journey.

Conflict Journaling

Task: Document internal conflicts or struggles regarding submission.
Expectations: Write openly and honestly about difficulties and share with the Dominant.
Why: To promote open dialogue and resolution of issues.
Lesson: Teaches self-awareness and encourages communication around challenges.

Gratitude Letters

Task: Write letters expressing gratitude toward the Dominant.
Expectations: Present genuine, heartfelt letters on a regular basis.
Why: To encourage appreciation and reflection on the Dominant’s care and the opportunity the submissive currently finds themselves in.
Lesson: Fosters a deeper sense of thankfulness and recognition for the Dominant’s role and the opportunity to submit.

Mantras or Affirmations

Task: Recite or write daily affirmations related to submission or service.
Expectations: Complete this task daily, internalizing the affirmations.
Why: To reinforce a positive and submissive mindset.
Lesson: Helps create a focused and intentional approach to submission.

Daily Reflections

Task: Reflect on daily actions, behavior, and thoughts related to submission.
Expectations: Set aside time each day to reflect on personal growth and performance.
Why: To ensure the submissive is mindful of their actions and improving.
Lesson: Encourages mindfulness and continuous self-improvement.

Mood Tracking

Task: Keep track of daily moods and emotions, especially those related to submission.
Expectations: Log emotions regularly and share with the Dominant.
Why: To help the Dominant understand the submissive’s emotional state.
Lesson: Tracking moods fosters emotional awareness and helps both partners adjust as needed.

Memory Work

Task: Reflect on past moments in the dynamic and their impact on growth.
Expectations: Write or discuss specific memories and their lessons.
Why: To highlight key experiences that shaped the dynamic.
Lesson: Reflection on past experiences deepens the emotional and mental connection.

Gratitude Lists

Task: Compile a daily or weekly list of things the submissive is grateful for.
Expectations: Share the list with the Dominant as a way to express appreciation.
Why: To cultivate a thankful mindset.
Lesson: Teaches that gratitude strengthens relationships and promotes positivity.

Gratitude Reflection

Task: Reflect on specific things the submissive is thankful for within the dynamic.
Expectations: Write reflections and share them periodically.
Why: To reinforce the bond through appreciation.
Lesson: Gratitude helps the submissive focus on the positive aspects of the dynamic.

Desires List

Task: Compile a list of new desires, fantasies, or areas for growth in submission.
Expectations: Discuss desires with the Dominant in an open, non-judgmental space.
Why: To foster exploration and growth in the dynamic.
Lesson: Teaches open communication about wants and needs, fostering trust and intimacy.

Self-Care Rituals

Task: Set self-care goals (e.g., skincare, relaxation) and follow through with them.
Expectations: Dedicate time to self-care as instructed by the Dominant.
Why: To maintain physical and emotional well-being.
Lesson: Self-care is essential to ensure the submissive is capable of serving fully.

Behavioral and Lifestyle Management Tasks:

Time Management Practice

Task: Track daily time management and report how effectively time was used.
Expectations: Submit detailed logs showing how tasks were prioritized and completed.
Why: To instill discipline in managing time effectively, ensuring that personal and service tasks are completed.
Lesson: Teaches responsibility and the value of managing time to better serve the Dominant and maintain personal productivity.

Task Prioritization

Task: Prioritize tasks based on the Dominant’s guidance or preferences.
Expectations: Complete higher-priority tasks first, with a focus on efficiency and accuracy.
Why: To help the submissive learn how to prioritize responsibilities and balance multiple tasks.
Lesson: Teaches decision-making and reinforces the importance of prioritizing the Dominant’s needs.

Charity Work or Volunteering

Task: Engage in acts of service for others, such as volunteering or charity work.
Expectations: Volunteer for a set amount of time, with a focus on helping those in need.
Why: To reinforce selflessness and the idea of serving not only the Dominant but the broader community.
Lesson: Teaches compassion and the value of contributing to something greater than oneself.

Daily Compliments

Task: Give at least one genuine compliment to someone each day.
Expectations: Offer thoughtful compliments to people around the submissive and report back to the Dominant.
Why: To encourage positive communication and a nurturing attitude.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of uplifting others, which can also strengthen the submissive’s emotional awareness.

Random Acts of Kindness

Task: Perform small, thoughtful acts of kindness for others without expecting anything in return.
Expectations: Engage in at least one act of kindness daily and reflect on the experience.
Why: To foster a caring and considerate mindset, even outside of the dynamic.
Lesson: Teaches humility and the value of giving without expectation.

Set Monthly Goals

Task: Create specific, measurable goals for each month related to personal development or submission.
Expectations: Track progress on goals and adjust them based on the Dominant’s feedback.
Why: To encourage long-term planning and development within the dynamic.
Lesson: Teaches goal-setting and accountability for personal growth.

Budget Tracking

Task: Track daily expenses and submit reports on how money is managed.
Expectations: Keep a detailed log of expenses and ensure responsible spending.
Why: To teach financial responsibility and transparency.
Lesson: Reinforces the importance of financial management as part of maintaining a stable, organized life.

No-Technology Hour

Task: Dedicate a set amount of time each day to being disconnected from technology (phones, computers).
Expectations: Follow this routine daily, focusing on other activities like reading, meditation, or reflection.
Why: To encourage mindfulness and reduce distractions.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of disconnecting and being present in the moment.

Scheduled Alone Time

Task: Set aside time for solitude and self-reflection, with no external distractions.
Expectations: Use this time for journaling, meditating, or reflecting on submission.
Why: To encourage self-awareness and reflection on personal growth within the dynamic.
Lesson: Helps the submissive gain a deeper understanding of their needs and desires.

Behavioral Challenges

Task: Take on specific challenges set by the Dominant to correct or improve behavior (e.g., avoiding a bad habit).
Expectations: Successfully complete the challenge and report back on progress.
Why: To instill discipline and encourage self-improvement.
Lesson: Teaches perseverance and the importance of facing and overcoming personal challenges.

Weekly Reflection Sessions

Task: Hold a dedicated session with the Dominant to reflect on the week’s achievements, challenges, and areas for improvement.
Expectations: Engage in honest, open communication about what went well and what didn’t.
Why: To maintain transparency and ensure ongoing growth in submission.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of regular communication and reflection within the dynamic.

Learning and Growth Tasks:

Skill Improvement

Task: Work on developing a specific skill, such as cooking, massage, photography, or rope-tying, etc.
Expectations: Practice regularly and demonstrate progress to the Dominant.
Why: To encourage continuous learning and personal development.
Lesson: Teaches the value of dedication and ongoing improvement.

Submissive Research

Task: Research a topic related to BDSM or submission and present findings to the Dominant.
Expectations: Provide a detailed report or discussion on what was learned.
Why: To foster a deeper understanding of submission and related dynamics.
Lesson: Encourages curiosity and the pursuit of knowledge within the dynamic.

Research Projects

Task: Conduct research on a broader subject, like relationship dynamics, history, or other interests that may benefit the dynamic.
Expectations: Present findings in a well-organized manner.
Why: To foster intellectual growth and contribute to shared knowledge.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of research and communication in enhancing the dynamic.

Attend BDSM Workshops

Task: Participate in BDSM or kink-related workshops (online or in person).
Expectations: Attend the workshop and provide feedback or insights to the Dominant.
Why: To expand knowledge and skills related to the dynamic.
Lesson: Teaches the value of continuing education in submission and kink.

Watch Educational Videos/Read Books

Task: Watch videos and read books on topics related to BDSM, submission, or general self-improvement.
Expectations: Take notes and discuss key takeaways with the Dominant.
Why: To gain new perspectives and understanding.
Lesson: Teaches the importance of staying informed and open to new ideas.

Skill Development

Task: Learn a new skill that can benefit the relationship, such as communication techniques, organization, or a hobby that interests the Dominant.
Expectations: Demonstrate progress and proficiency in the chosen skill.
Why: To improve and expand the submissive’s ability to serve.
Lesson: Learning new skills enriches the dynamic and enhances personal growth.

Writing Poetry

Task: Write poetry that reflects feelings of submission, devotion, or the dynamic.
Expectations:Share poems with the Dominant regularly.
Why: To foster creative expression and emotional depth.
Lesson: Creative tasks help the submissive explore emotions and communicate in different ways.

Creative Writing

Task: Write stories or fantasies that reflect desires or elements of the dynamic.
Expectations: Write consistently and share the results with the Dominant.
Why: To encourage creativity and emotional expression.
Lesson: Helps the submissive explore inner thoughts and fantasies in a structured way.

Learn a New Language

Task: Study a new language or phrases that can be used in the dynamic (e.g., honorifics in a foreign language).
Expectations: Practice regularly and demonstrate proficiency over time.
Why: To expand communication options and show dedication to self-improvement.
Lesson: Teaches perseverance and the importance of learning for growth.

Photography Project

Task: Document the dynamic through photography, capturing meaningful moments or symbols of submission.
Expectations: Present a collection of photos that express devotion or growth in the dynamic.
Why: To encourage creative expression and reflection on the relationship.
Lesson: Teaches how to see the dynamic through a creative and thoughtful lens.

Symbolic and Creative Tasks:

Create a Relationship Playlist

Task: Curate a playlist of music that represents the dynamic and submit it to the Dominant.
Expectations: Choose songs that reflect the emotions and themes of the relationship.
Why: To create shared experiences and deeper emotional connections through music.
Lesson: Music can enhance emotional intimacy and strengthen bonds.

Daily Symbolic Gesture

Task: Perform a daily act, such as lighting a candle or writing a note, that symbolizes devotion.
Expectations: Consistently perform the gesture and reflect on its meaning.
Why: To reinforce the dynamic through daily rituals.
Lesson: Small, symbolic actions can have profound meaning in the dynamic.