BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship. In no way shape or form, would W/we ever support any form of abuse. It is wrong to physically or emotionally lash out at another person and cause that person any form of mental, emotional or physical harm or duress.
In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self thus allowing for more intense experiences. In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.
Ever since I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD back in 2020, I have felt like there was a label, or constant worry which I couldn’t shake. This was also when I realized just how healing BDSM can be for someone with trauma which haunts them like Gasper the unfriendly ghost. I had just begun working with a disciplinarian and entering an amazing relationship with a […]
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How to Build a New BDSM Dynamic After Trauma It’s an unfortunate fact in our lifestyle that many (if not most) Submissives will have at least one experience with a “Dom” that leaves a bad taste in their mouth. Fake Doms are a common threat lurking on the fringes of our community, and involvement with one can easily lead to a Submissive rethinking their role
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I consider “aftercare” to be a ritual or activity that helps both parties reorient themselves to the real world after a scene. In my experience, it’s a brief activity that happens before the “goodbyes” or a transitional activity between other events. In comparison, what I call “holistic aftercare” includes reorientation activities and rituals extending beyond the scene’s immediate end. It includes not only post-scene activities
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Ask any veteran submissive tips on how to get started and you will hear three common themes: avoid submitting too soon, have limits, and don’t confine yourself to a label. Yet, veterans and newbies alike seem to take the do-not-do list and turn it into our things to-do list. In the heat and sexiness of scening, we end up on our knees handing our submission
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Hidden behind a veil of intrigue and misconceptions, the world of BDSM calls to us with its complexities and secret desires. “Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM” is a journey into the heart of a lifestyle that defies stereotypes and invites us to explore the boundaries of human connection and consent.
We live in a society where preconceived notions often obscure the truth. But I believe it’s time to peel back the layers and unveil the profound meaning and realities beneath the surface.
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We all hear vanilla people talking about their resolutions this time of year: lose weight, eat healthier, get more confidence, spend more time with family. But what about our kinky side. What resolutions do you have for yourself this year. Eat more pussy? Spend more time doing vanilla things a kinky way? Or are you rewriting your contracts from years past. Trying out new kinks
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“Spanking, Always Up For A Bit of Spanking!” Discovering Spanko Sexualities Through TV and Film It’s a commonality among spankos that one or twice in our lives, we’ve watched spanking scenes on TV. Quite often, some of our first memories of spanking are of us being very young and witnessing a spanking scene in a TV show or film when we were innocently minding our
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My life as a collared, owned, obedient, live-in, submissive houseboy to a dominant, authoritative Mistress began back in October of 2021 when we met for our first date. We’d connected through a dating app a few days earlier and had hit it off immediately with exciting, witty and tantalising banter. We agreed to meet quite soon after for a get-to-know-you drink because She lived in
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As a submissive in a 24/7 TPE relationship, I enjoy meeting the expectations of my Dominant. I strive to please him, I obey commands, I accept discipline and I serve, all of which require dedication and effort. I do enjoy the lifestyle we lead, but it’s not always easy. I find it helps if I’m feeling tip-top, and that means looking after my mental and
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The vanilla world is one realm where Dominants can often have less presence or influence in their submissive’s life, intentional or not. Unless you live with your Dominant in a 24/7 dynamic or your Dominant is often physically with you, the majority of vanilla situations in your life will likely occur without your Dominant’s immediate presence or guidance. This can be for better or worse!
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