I will forever remember the day I realized the lifestyle I had only ever dreamed possible, was actually my reality. Way back in December 2014, I knelt before my Sir, lifted my hair into a ponytail, and felt the titanium of my collar lock around my neck. I was in Heaven. Pure bliss. And couldn’t believe my fantasies were now a reality–and how in love […]
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As a Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist, I counsel individuals and couples in overcoming barriers they may be experiencing with orgasm. Guiding individuals through experiences to ensure that they experience their best orgasm. In BDSM different positions can be utilized to not only bring on a different state of mind, but different types of orgasms and sensations that can release a new kind of energy and pleasure.
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While navigating the kink space, I’ve experienced many moments of vulnerability. Moments that shed light on some toxic traits that I wasn’t aware I possessed. A toxic trait, at least how I define it, is anything that is detrimental to yourself or another person in a relationship. All I knew is that these weren’t traits that I wanted to keep.
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So, what do we do when we find ourselves out of sync with our partners? When we want to deepen our submission, or switch from a top to a bottom and our partners are not on the same page?
Being dominated is one of the most common fantasies, especially in people who identify as woman. The most common themes of sexual submission include bondage, spanking and consensual non-consent role plays. So, what happens when you decide you want these fantasies played out in real life?
While you can’t force the desire to dominate in another person, you can highlight how powerful they will feel by taking on that mantle so that they can make demands of and perform erotic activities with you. Here are some ideas of how to get started.
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The first time I heard the term “alpha submissive” it resonated with me immediately. It was described as the woman boss who doesn’t back down in the corporate world but once she’s behind closed doors, the pumps come off and the collar goes on. An independent woman who doesn’t need a man but always needs her Daddy.
Conceptually it made sense to me, but when I thought about it a little deeper, there are many layers to alpha submissives that work very well with servant leadership. Intertwining servant leadership with my submission has not only allowed me to submit more readily but also has led to levels of personal growth and accountability that I never realized were attainable.
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Punishment and funishment are a dynamic duo of kinks to include in a dynamic, especially for a sadist-masochist combo. Punishment is the type of response a submissive wants to avoid having to experience, whereas funishment is role-play that is yearned for because of the pleasure and intensity it can bring. Basically, punishment a rule or protocol has been broken and there is real a correction
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Something that I appreciate about the kink world is that there is space to explore myself to the fullest extent. I get to define my own meaning, discover hidden layers through play, and choose how I express myself in a non-judgmental community. Throughout my kink journey, I’ve come to understand what femininity looks like for me as well as found space to relish and lean into that femininity. In my vanilla life, up to this point, I did not have the opportunity to be as feminine as I would have liked to be so BDSM has offered me the space to reclaim the person I feel like I am.
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As you continue to learn and grow in your submissive journey, it is essential that you know what you desire, but what it is you want and need to nourish your submission. Without understanding this, you will find your submissive desires being starved and suppressed, instead of rejoiced and nurtured.
For the only way for anyone in this world to get what it is that they truly want; is first to know that which it is that they want and need.
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Being a 24/7 little is something I love about myself because it gives me a chance to practice self-compassion and serves as an outlet from the realities of adulthood in a safe manner. Sometimes though, it can be difficult if I fall into littlespace at inopportune times and it can be especially challenging during times when I don’t have a caregiver to interact with. That being said, being able to navigate and be comfortable in littlespace on my own is an invaluable experience that I would never want to give up.
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These days it’s not difficult to turn on the internet and get turned on. In the world of endless content, its not hard to get hard. As porn continues to transition in the age of only fans, and erotic literature rides the 50 shades wave, so too erotic audio has found its niche in rise of the podcast and audio book. What is erotic audio?
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