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Compartmentalize Your BDSM Self

Learn To Compartmentalize Your BDSM Self

Much of what we do in BDSM involves roleplay, and not just the ‘strict teacher / naughty student’ dress-up variety. Simply acting as the top or bottom in a scene is a role in itself, complete with its own responsibilities, energy, and intentions. The more we’re able to immerse ourselves in the headspace of our role during play, the more powerful the experience becomes.

The intense experiences we have during play have the potential to transform our everyday lives, for better or worse. For BDSM to be a healthy practice, it’s crucial that we refine our ability to cleanly separate fantasy from reality. Learning to compartmentalize BDSM will allow you to reap the benefits of kinky sexploration while continuing to function harmoniously outside the bedroom.

If we don’t learn to compartmentalize, BDSM can end up negatively impacting our psychological state, our relationships, and even our career.

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The Alpha Dominant Enigma

In my last article, (​Why Some Alphas Desire Submission) I discussed the recent research showing how everybody suffers from what is called “Mental Exhaustion.” It is this form of cognitive exhaustion that greatly reduces the number of decisions that can be made everyday by a single person. Once too many decisions have been made an individual’s  ability to properly make further decisions and think critically

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Why I Love The St. Andrew's Cross For BDSM

Why I Love The St. Andrew’s Cross

If you can’t tell, I love the St. Andrews Cross. he cross offers the potential for so much play. Bondage and restraint, Pain and impact play, Sensation and surprise…Whatever you desire the St. Andrew’s Cross is my favorite piece of dungeon furniture to play on.

The wood was cool against my cheek, flush with anticipation of what was to come and the heat of the first strike across my bottom. With a blindfold stealing my vision, plummeting me into darkness, I could only wait, knowing that the next sensation could be almost anything — the sharp smack of a paddle, the searing pain of the cane, or a sensual caress down my naked back.

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Impact Play is More Than Spanking

While spanking is not required in BDSM nor does everyone love to engage in spanking, it is a popular kinky activity. Whether you love the control, the pain, or the intimacy of spanking, it’s worth exploring other avenues. Even if you don’t engage in anything other than your favorite bare-handed spanking, you may pick up some new tricks in the process.

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Teamwork In Dominant Submissive Relationships

Good D/s Relationships Require Teamwork

Imagine your most erotic or deepest fantasy of Dominance and submission (D/s). What does it look like? How much control does the Dominant have over their submissive? What does the submissive allow or accept? Are the scenarios extremely rough or more playful? Are limits and boundaries stretched to the edge or is all play safe within your limits?

For many kinksters, the picture they have in their mind of D/s is often the most erotic and extreme version of a power exchange. But the question is can it be like this?

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My Alpha Submission

Upon entering my world of  submission, I thought I knew what I wanted and needed. The excitement of the BDSM scene and all the future possibilities and opportunities that lay before me. I thought I knew everything I needed to know about being a submissive, and what that role meant to me. When I first stepped into trying to be submissive this what I thought

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Why Would An Alpha Want To Be Submissive

Why Some Alphas Desire Submission

The one thing that tends to confuse most people about BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships is the dynamic of the submissive alpha. I’m sure you know the one I am talking about, the individual who is a complete Dominating alpha in their entire life and yet has an enormous need to submit in their kinky life. So what is an alpha? Many would agree that an

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I Have Top Energy But I’m Still a Submissive

No matter where you identify on the spectrum of Dominance and submissive (D/s), few people are all one or the other — even when being one or the other is part of your identity. In relationships and under the right circumstances, I’m fully a submissive. My natural inclination is to submit, yield, and do what I’m asked or told by a dominant partner. But there

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My Intro To Bondage & The Mistakes Learned

When it comes to BDSM and our personal kinky journey we all start in the same place. The one with less experience than everyone else, the person who wants and craves everything but does not know anyone yet to fulfill those desires. I noticed I loved rope early on when I first witnessed someone being tied up in person. Its ok to look at images

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