Before You Start
As you continue to learn and grow in your submissive journey, it is essential that you know what you desire, but what it is you want and need to nourish your submission. Without understanding this, you will find your submissive desires being starved and suppressed, instead of rejoiced and nurtured.
For the only way for anyone in this world to get what it is that they truly want; is first to know that which it is that they want and need.
If you don’t know what it is you want and need as a submissive, then you need to take this time to sit down with yourself and list it all out. Write it down, make your thoughts a reality, so you can see it all as clear as day.
Just as important as knowing what you desire is knowing what you do not like and is a limit you will not cross (commonly referred to as a “Hard Limit”). Or is a limit that you will only cross under a very particular set of circumstances (commonly referred to as a “Soft Limit”). The key point being these are only things you will ever know and therefore must be something that you know about yourself.
For your submission can not flourish if you are not in an environment that is built to feed your submissive desires and eliminate the things that will make you feel uncomfortable, unsafe and unappreciated. There is not a Dominant alive who will ever be able to do this for you, if you do not understand it yourself.
Here is a BDSM Interest/Limits checklist you can use to more easily understand your desires and dislikes more clearly.
Understanding your submission starts with you, this is why your first task was to look at yourself in the mirror. Refer back to your first task to remind you the importance of you in this journey: Submissive Task: Stand & Understand
By Master Bishop
The founder of the BDSM Training Academy. Master Bishop has been involved in the Dominant/submissive lifestyle for over 19 years. With a love for education both learning and teaching, Master Bishop has passed on his knowledge and experience to others entering into the BDSM lifestyle for over 14 years.
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