Creating BDSM Tension

When you’re having sex with another person, all of the right moves do not necessarily add up to a good time. This is especially the case with BDSM. If you already know what’s going to happen or you simply don’t feel like things are exciting, you’re going to have troubles enjoying your time with your partner. In order to make your sexual escapade a bit more exciting, you will want to spend time building the tension in the room. When you do this, you will ensure your partner is going to be panting at the thought of the final finish, even if it seems like it will never come (pun intended).

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Keep It Fresh
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Before you even head to the bedroom or the dungeon, you need to keep a few things in mind. First things first, the sexual tension in any relationship will die when you aren’t trying to keep things fresh. If you’re not taking the time to think about new scenes and new techniques, your partner is going to be sighing each time you begin to meet in your preferred location. They’re going to know what you’re going to do, how they need to react, etc. Instead, take some time to learn new tricks and new ideas for scenes. Keep a bowl of scene ideas and fish one idea out when you want to create some sexual tension. The sub isn’t going to know what’s about to happen and that edge of nervousness is always hot.

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Slow It Down
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In addition, another tension killer is speed. Some couples just want to get to the good part, and they forget the steps that lead to that good part are just as amazing. Instead of simply trying to finish as quickly as possible, try to take your time with a slave, if you’re a Dominant, for example. Tie them up and leave them there for a while, doing something every now and again to remind them that they are at your mercy. Or as a slave, you might want to try to do things more slowly than you normally would, slightly taunting your Master or Mistress, if that’s within your ability to do. Either way, make sure that you take your time in the dungeon or the bedroom. When you speed things up to the end, you are only creating skipped erogenous zones and possibly a feeling of dissatisfaction for one of you.

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Tease and Taunt
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A little teasing and taunting never hurt anyone. Try to find ways you can tease your partner and make them wait just a little bit longer to have the sexual satisfaction they expect. This does go hand in hand with slowing things down, but you can also taunt by touching places you know the other person wants touched. Or you might want to bring your partner to the brink of orgasm, only to let the feeling dissolve before it reaches the pinnacle. Doing this again and again makes for a hot night that will not be easily forgotten. You can also tease and taunt by saying that you’re going to do one thing and then do another thing. Or you can just say that you’re going to do something and then not do it until the very end of the scene when the other person has given up.

Choosing to build the sexual tension is a good idea in any relationship, but in BDSM, it can help you to have a night of power struggles that ends up with an amazing orgasm for the both of you – assuming the slave is allowed, of course.

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Master Bishop

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