This world can seem very lonely when you first discover your kinks. Most people will adamantly admit that BDSM is a disgusting perversion in public. Lovers can become scarred off or lash out in anger if you even suggest trying out a lighter kink. With nobody to talk to and no one to turn too, it can become a lonely existence living with your own kinks. Hence why so many people turn away from BDSM to hopefully live a vanilla life, only to discover 20 – 30 years later that their kinks are something they just can not escape from.
If you have ever felt alone in your kinks and like you don’t belong in the vanilla world, than know that you are not alone. There are millions kinksters around the world who are going through or have gone through the same emotions and experiences you are feeling right now.
Dom/sub Journal: Write out any past experiences where you were shamed for your kinks. How did these experiences make you feel? Then describe why you should not feel ashamed for enjoying your kinks? Describe why you should be proud of your kinks and how you will carry yourself in the future when confronted about your kinks ever again.
If you have an idea of how you can react positively towards such negativity in the future it can make handling any future situations much easier. It will also help you to truly accept who you are and the world you choose to live in.
Here is to your continued journey,