More and more women these days want to become dominant in the relationship. The problem is while you might feel a strong urge to Dominate your partner you don’t know how to start. Some Dominant women believe that it should come naturally and that you will learn as you go. This is a big mistake.
What Kind Of Dominatrix Would You Trust
Would you ever trust a surgeon who just learned on the job? Probably not. In fact you probably wouldn’t want to go near that surgeon when they have a knife in their hands. With no education they wouldn’t even understand basic anatomy or surgical cleansing standards. Yes experience is invaluable but every surgeon must learn important basics before they can pick up that knife. Nobody trusts a surgeon who has not received a proper education.
The same goes for becoming a Dominatrix. So many women are eager to pick up a flogger and begin working away on some poor soul. Sure the Dominatrix get to learn as they go but the submissive experiencing all the mistakes gets to suffer and sometimes the mistakes are irreversible.
You might have seen a show called “1000 ways to die” in which true stories showcase all the different ways a human can die. One episode showed a Dominatrix dealing with a submissive for the first time. The submissive suffered from a serious latex allergy which even the sub did not know about. The Dominatrix placed this sub in a full body latex outfit. She then gagged him and placed a latex hood over his face.
With such an extreme allergic reaction to latex and covered from head to toe in this latex suit it did not take long for his body to begin to react. The pain he was in must have been excruciating. He begged and pleaded as best he could but since he was tied down and gagged there was no way for him to communicate.
She assumed that all his gagging, begging and whining was just him enjoying the session. After a short time he just stopped moving and died. Sadly a tragic end to something that was easily preventable. If this Dominatrix would have taken the time to receive even a small amount of education she would have known how to avoid this terrible mistake. A mistake that cost someone their life.
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What Mistakes Did She Make
>> They did not have a clear defined safeword to end the session when it became too much for the submissive.
>> The safeword didn’t really matter because he had no way of calling it out in the first place. Never ever gag or hood someone you have never played with before. If the submissive had not been gagged or hooded he would have been able to call out his safeword and explained clearly to the Dominatrix that he was having an allergic reaction or that something was extremely wrong. They could have taken him out of the suit and rushed him to the hospital immediately. Instead she just kept playing thinking everything was fine and this was exactly what he wanted.
>> Not once did she ever stop to check in with her sub to make sure everything was ok. As the Dominant you must look out for you and your submissive’s safety and well being. Both mentally, emotionally and physically.
These are just a few of the mistakes she made. Being a Dominatrix is an important job and not one to be taken lightly. While the story above is an extreme case, it shows how fragile human life really is and how just a little bit of education can go a long way. Many BDSM activities are dangerous, injuries do happen and even deaths have occurred. It is important for you as the Dominant partner to educate yourself and learn how to prevent this from ever happening to you or your submissive. Remember the reason you wanted to take charge of the bedroom was for fun, but first learn how to do it properly. This way you can enjoy the fun knowing how to keep the both of you safe.
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