While spanking is not required in BDSM nor does everyone love to engage in spanking, it is a popular kinky activity. Plenty of people get into spanking (or being spanked by) their partner and never get into BDSM at all. But for those who truly enjoy the activity — receiving or giving — there’s an entire world of impact play beyond a hand on a bottom.
Whether you love the control, the pain, or the intimacy of spanking, it’s worth exploring other avenues. Even if you don’t engage in anything other than your favorite bare-handed spanking, you may pick up some new tricks in the process.
For anyone who’s ready to take spankings to a new level and maybe add in a few toys or a new level of control and submission, take a look at some of your options.
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Floggers, Whips, And Crops, Oh My!
Some might call these the kinky trinity of impact play. While gear isn’t required for any kind of kink, including impact play, floggers, whips, and crops are the most popular. Entire workshops and classes are lead and taught to help kinksters master techniques to inflict the most amount of pain or pleasure.
Each type requires different skills and provides a different sensation. And as any kinkster who’s been on the receiving end can tell you — using a different technique with the same toy can yield different results. From flicks of the wrist to a big swing of the arm, you can create everything from sharp stings and deep thuds with floggers, whips, and crops.
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House Hold Pervertables
You don’t have to have a lot of money to get into impact play. Floggers, whips, crops, and paddles are fun and great to have. But they’re certainly not required. Look around your home, a local dollar store, or a home improvement store, and you’ll likely find all kinds of things that would make great impact play toys.
Common items include:
- Plastic or silicone spatulas
- Wooden dowels — the thinner, the stingier
- Wooden spoons
- Ping pong paddles
- A belt
- A small book
Literally anything that you can easily hold in your hand can probably be used for impact play. Be mindful of the weight and material, though. Too heavy and you may cause a sensation your partner doesn’t want. The wrong material can cut or mark your partner’s skin. While some people enjoy this, not everyone does.
Erotic Face Slapping
Erotic face slapping isn’t for everyone, even kinksters who adore spankings. Because of the personal and intimate nature of it, slapping your partner’s face can feel like a violation or trigger past trauma. Never engage in even playful face slapping without first discussing it with your partner.
If you’re partner is willing to try, keep these tips in mind:
- Hold their head and face steady in your free hand.
- Focus the impact on the fleshiest part of their cheek.
- When first starting, using your fingertips more than your palm.
- As you both grow comfortable with erotic faceslapping, increase the intensity
Some people enjoy erotic face slapping as another form of impact play, while others use it as part of humiliation play. You can also enjoy it during other kinky fun like face-fucking or cock worship.
Like every other form of impact play, punching isn’t for everyone, and no, we’re not talking about a fist fight. Punching in impact play feels more like a deep tissue massage than anything else. As with all forms of impact, where and how you hit makes a difference.
It helps to have a familiarity with the body and muscle groups before you begin. If you’re unsure, your local kink community may have a massage therapist or two who can help you out.
Using the flat part of your fist — never the knuckles — make short, controlled jabs over the large muscles of the back, shoulders, buttocks, legs, and (for some) the chest. These areas tend to hold more muscle and fat so are able to absorb the impact. As your fist lands on their body, press and hold for a second to maintain the contact.
Wearing 20 oz boxing gloves can cushion the impact, and eliminate contact with the knuckles. However, do not be mistaken in thinking you can punch harder because you are wearing boxing gloves as this is not the case.
Consent is mandatory in any kink activity, and it’s important that both dominant and submissive communicate before, during, and after any impact play. While spankings and impact play can seem harmless simply because they’re popular forms of play, they come with inherent risks of injury and harm that can’t be taken lightly. Practice, communicate, and go slowly in any new form of play you try, especially impact play.
It’s okay to prefer spankings over every other kinky play, but you never know what you’ll discover until you look a little deeper. Only try what appeals to both you and your partner, but feel free to explore the wide world of impact play. You may be surprised at just how far you’re willing to take your experience.
By Kayla Lords
Professional writer, sex blogger, erotic author, sexual submissive, and kinkster, Kayla writes more than is probably healthy over at A Sexual Being and overshares about the kinky and mundane side of her BDSM relationship. Her mission: to make BDSM, specifically Dominance and submission, less scary, less weird, and much more real and attainable for anyone willing to learn more.
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