Ramping Up Your BDSM Play

You might come to a point in your BDSM play when you begin to feel
like you can do more. Whether you’re a Dom/me or a sub, you might
get to a point when you feel as though things need to be a little
heavier in order to bring you pleasure. This is a natural
progression in most BDSM relationships. Although, it’s far more
common for the Dominant person to want to increase the intensity
for their sub first, so what do you do then? How can you help to
intensify the experience for everyone in a safe and satisfying way?

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Starting Slowly Has Its Benefits

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If you’ve just started experimenting with BDSM, chances are good
that you’re just naturally curious about what else is out there and
what else you can do to make things even more fun. But if you’ve
only been playing around with BDSM for a few weeks, it might be a
better idea to continue learning before you start making things
more intense for both parties in the relationship. Right now, your
goal should be to learn about the basics of BDSM – communication,
limitations, and whatever sorts of play you are both interested in.
Once you understand how to play safely and you’re having a good
time, then you can start to talk to your partner about increasing
the sensations and the experience.

But doing this too quickly can turn off both partners and
potentially sour the BDSM experience for everyone. Learn what you
can first and once you’ve ‘mastered’ the basics, then it’s time to
move up the BDSM ladder of possibilities.

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Talking Over Limits

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Obviously, you’re not just going to increase the any sensations
without talking to your partner first. Find a time when you and
your partner are not occupied and begin to discuss what you would
like to try and then talk to them about things they might want to
try as well. Listen to each other and try to come to a happy
compromise about what you both want to experience.

If your sub is a bit nervous about pushing themselves in the play
space, you will want to make sure to create safewords that will
help them have an ‘out’ if things are just too much. Discuss how
this word should be used, when it should be used and impress upon
your partner that you will stop immediately when you hear that
word. Its all about making them feel safe and comfortable with you.

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Pushing the Edges of Your Play

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It’s a good thing to push the boundaries of your BDSM experience
from time to time because it helps you both create a more exciting
experience. By pushing past your limitations, you not only get a
more intense experience, but you will also get a greater rush of
adrenaline. In addition, exploring your own boundaries with
someone else will enhance your trust in each other, and it will
help you both to have a stronger relationship as a result.

You never know how far you can go until you try to go further than
you’ve already been. That said, you don’t ever have to
go any further than you want to if you’re not interested. That’s
why you talk over the potential changes to your relationship first.
If there’s no room for compromise, there’s no room for change.

If you partner refuses to budge on their limits, then you must
respect this. But if these new ideas are something you have to try
or you need in your life then perhaps this is a sign you need a new
partner to share what you want from your BDSM play. This does not
mean you leave your partner because they don’t want to try it right
away or are unsure. Many things need to be considered when
deciding to leave a serious long term Dom/sub relationship.

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Checking in at the End of a Session

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If you decide to push things a bit further in a play session, make
sure to check in with your partner at the end to see how it worked
for them. By communicating about what works and what did not, you
can both learn from the experience and change things as needed.
This time can also help you brainstorm other things you might want
to try in the future. Be honest and you’ll not only be able to
continuously grow in your BDSM relationship, but you will also
continue to be healthy and safe as you play.

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Regards,

Master Bishop
& Mistress Sophia

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