I have found a sub. I am female he is male. We have chatted on line for a long time and met once for a brief time, just to get acquainted. He wants to submit to me. To be my slave 24/7. I am thrilled and excited. We plan to meet in 3 days for him to submit. I am not sure what to say to him during this submission. I know he will be naked, kneeling before me. Help, what do I say? I think once that part is over, I can take control, but I know this part is very important to him and I want to get it right.
Anonymous
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Mistress Brianne’s Response
Knowing what to say in a scene is often far more important than anything you might do to a slave. As a Mistress who is taking on a slave 24/7, you can’t simply say that it’s time to begin. You need to make sure that you are saying something that will set the tone for your time together. First impressions do count and they will be important for you both.
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What He Expects from You
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Most of the time, a slave will want to have something particular in their submission. They have probably dreamed of this day for a while now, so they know what they think this submission should be like. Ideally, they should share this with you as this will give you a chance to see how their desires and your desires can mesh together. You might find that you don’t want to take a slave in the way that he wants you to. And that has to be okay too. You want to take a slave in a way that is powerful for you, not in a way that simply submits to what he wants. You are controlling him, after all. If you give up control now, you might have troubles training a slave in the future.
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The Power of Silence
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What a Mistress should realize is that silence can be even more powerful than words. Looking a slave up and down can be all the more powerful than saying something dirty. Take some time to look over every single square inch of your slave to make sure they are right for you. Just as you might look over a car before you buy it, make sure you know every inch of your slave before you agree to take them on. You will also want to look at their eyes, deeply, to make sure the slave is giving over their spirit to you.
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Saying the Right Words
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The right words to use should show that you are in control of your slave. You should list to your slave all of the things you will expect of them when they are under your control. You should also tell them what you expect of them in the long term. You should outline what they need to act like when they are around you and you should ask them after each term whether they agree to these conditions. They can be on their knees the whole time, making this painful and extended. Your slave should know exactly what you expect of them. And they should not look you in the eyes unless you tell them they can.
Being a Mistress is not an easy task, but making sure that you are making the right first impression is the best way to claim a slave who wants to be the best slave possible. Any other slave will simply not do. For more detailed examples of what to say to your slave, try reading How to talk like a Dominatrix
Regards,
Mistress Brianne
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