BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship. In no way shape or form, would W/we ever support any form of abuse. It is wrong to physically or emotionally lash out at another person and cause that person any form of mental, emotional or physical harm or duress.
In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self thus allowing for more intense experiences. In the image below you will be able to see a list of the big differences that I believe separate BDSM from abuse. Have a look and let Me know what you think.
When I first began my journey into BDSM, learning the technical skills took time, but once I knew what I wanted to learn, it was all a matter of time and practice to become a proficient practitioner. When I started, I found it more difficult to think up creative and enticing tasks for a submissive to keep them on their toes, strengthen the bond, and […]
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This article is partly dedicated to a young man that reached out to me in an inspiring display of vulnerability. The clear frustration and desperation in the tone of his message made me wonder what he had endured leading up to that point. He reached out to ask me how he can meaningfully engage with our local community. I’m admittedly awestruck by this question because
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Imagine walking into a room full of strangers who all share a common interest in a complex and exciting game. Everyone is friendly, and the atmosphere feels welcoming, even fun. You watch people showcase their skills and interact with enthusiasm. However, while the gathering looks harmless on the surface, the game’s stakes are much higher than you initially realize. Behind the friendly smiles and casual
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The beauty of a power dynamic is in its power to heal. To share in a partnership where there is a flow of power in a beautiful movement called love. With one in control and the other surrendering control, all while being totally in love, is powerful beyond what words can express. And another to sink into the feeling their partner has them completely and
Imagine this: After years of deliberations, internal conflict, and searching, you have finally decided to dip your toe into the realm of BDSM. Lucky for you, you have found a common soul who has also expressed a desire for the taboo. Your interactions with this special someone go splendidly, leading up to two scenarios: 1) you both continue on your merry way to privately explore
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Dirk Hooper continues his exploration of protocols with part 2, drawing on over thirty years of experience to guide you in creating customized BDSM protocols that meet your relationship’s needs and desires.
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Ever since I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD back in 2020, I have felt like there was a label, or constant worry which I couldn’t shake. This was also when I realized just how healing BDSM can be for someone with trauma which haunts them like Gasper the unfriendly ghost. I had just begun working with a disciplinarian and entering an amazing relationship with a
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How to Build a New BDSM Dynamic After Trauma It’s an unfortunate fact in our lifestyle that many (if not most) Submissives will have at least one experience with a “Dom” that leaves a bad taste in their mouth. Fake Doms are a common threat lurking on the fringes of our community, and involvement with one can easily lead to a Submissive rethinking their role
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I consider “aftercare” to be a ritual or activity that helps both parties reorient themselves to the real world after a scene. In my experience, it’s a brief activity that happens before the “goodbyes” or a transitional activity between other events. In comparison, what I call “holistic aftercare” includes reorientation activities and rituals extending beyond the scene’s immediate end. It includes not only post-scene activities
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Ask any veteran submissive tips on how to get started and you will hear three common themes: avoid submitting too soon, have limits, and don’t confine yourself to a label. Yet, veterans and newbies alike seem to take the do-not-do list and turn it into our things to-do list. In the heat and sexiness of scening, we end up on our knees handing our submission
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