When Your Slave Wants to Do Something You Don’t Want to Do
As a Dominant, you have a lot of different things you can do with
your slave. You can push them right up to their boundaries by
looking at what you’ve agreed to include in scenes as well as
things you’ve decided you both might want to try. But what happens
when your slave wants to do something you don’t want to do? Does
this mean you need to find a new slave? Or does this mean that you
should acquiesce to their needs as they acquiesce to your needs?
This has become quite the sticky subject to approach between
Dominants and their slaves. Here are some things to consider when
you find yourself in this situation.
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Starting the Conversation
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Ideally, your slave is going to be the one who will initiate the
conversation about what they want. But you might have a situation
in which your slave tries to get you to do something during a
session that you have not agreed to before – this is a no no. You
need to stop the session and start a conversation, fully clothed.
This conversation needs to be as open as possible in order to learn
what your slave needs from you and what you are willing to provide
for them. If the conversation is spontaneous, you might need some
time to think things over before you go back to your slave with an
answer – and this okay. Starting the conversation is the most
important part and the way you will begin to consider what happens
next.
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Trying It Out
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For some Dominants, you may be perfectly willing to try something
new, just to see if it works. You might create some sort of
conditional arrangement, or even add a clause to your slave
contract, in order to show the slave you are just trying this out
and this may not be a part of what you two do together in the
future if it doesn’t work. After all, you might not enjoy what the
slave wants and your slave may not actually enjoy it once they try
it. While you might be the owner of your slave, it isn’t a bad
thing to allow for some creativity and adjustments to your
relationship – it might just add a new level of BDSM fun.
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The Case for Saying No
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On the other hand, if you’re a Dominant that completely lets their
slave walk all over them, you have a bigger problem than just not
liking what your slave wants to do. If you think about the request
from your slave and you think it’s just not something you want to
do, go ahead and say no. This will show you what the slave really
wants from your relationship sometimes. For example, if your slave
becomes petulant after not getting their way, you will see that
your slave is trying to control you. Perhaps it’s time for you to
step up your Dominant ways. On the other hand, if the slave goes
back to the way they were, without any regret for your
relationship, you will see that they simply did want to try
something new, not to try to control your actions.
There may come a time in your relationship when your slave wants to
try something new. And while you might not like the idea at first,
there’s no harm in trying since you can always go back to the way
things were. But in the end, it’s up to you what you do – that’s
why you wear the big boots in the relationship, after all.
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Punishment Basics – Why, When And How
Most of us can recall a time when we did something wrong as a child and then were punished for it. We were probably made to sit in a corner or take a ‘time out.’ When a slave has done something wrong, as W/we have learned from childhood, sometimes punishments can be effective at correcting the behavior that is if the submissive wants the behavior changed. The point of the punishment is to link the inappropriate behavior with the feelings of the unpleasant punishment which will occur if the behavior is repeated. This allows people to learn (some learn more effectively from punishment than others) from their mistakes so they will remember to not let it happen again. To do this, the Master/Mistress can employ a number of mind controls that will cause the slave to rethink their behavior and reconsider their future actions. Before you can include any kind of punishment training into your slave training there are a few necessities:
Train Your Body To Orgasm On Command
Quite a few people still believe that women’s bodies are these gigantic mysteries with some complex code needed to unlock the ever-elusive Orgasm. The misconception that women are unable to be easily aroused is false. Women tend to be more easily stimulated by more cerebral things – better put, women’s minds need to be turned on first before their bodies will follow. So, with this in mind, when it comes to a female submissive wanting to orgasm on command for their Master, you first must stimulate the mind to provide the body with the space it needs to let go and follow when instructed.
Rewarding A Submissive For Good Behavior
Despite the commonly held belief that BDSM is essentially all about punishment, pain, whips, chains, and anything that might cause severe agony, the exact opposite is more commonplace. If you dissect the definitions of Bondage, Discipline, Sado, and Masochism, three of those words can be related to pain play, and even bondage can be used in a painful way, depending on how it is applied. If you search for BDSM, many images are submissives with strained faces being subjected to painful experiences. It can be hard to see past that first glimpse for many. While much attention is focused on discipline and pain for dramatic effect, when it comes to actual submissive training, rewards and positive reinforcement tend to be more effective in submissive training. As the old saying goes, “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”
