A submissive often walks into the dungeon, gets into position, and then waits for whatever will happen to happen. They don’t worry about the toys that are being used or what they need to think about – the Master or Mistress will take care of the details. A sub must take their own health and safety into their own hands, to do this it’s best for the slave to take responsibility for the toys that are being used on them.
As a sub you do not know how many people have used those toys before you or if they have been properly cleaned. By bringing your own whips, floggers, and other implements, a sub ensures a Dominant has all they need, and that the sub has more confidence in the safety that they deserve from sexually transmitted diseases and other communicable diseases.
As a Dominant the only way you can make sure your scenes are hygienic and safe for both you and your sub is to either:
1) Buy new toys for each sub you play with. To put your sub’s mind at ease it is best to take them shopping with you, so they can see it is new. OR
2) Explain to your sub if they want to play they must bring only new toys or toys that have only been used by them. For their safety you will not be supplying any equipment or toys for the scene.
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A Slave's Job & Duty
A slave should be doing all they can to make their Master or Mistress’ job easier. Whether this means arriving on time or bringing their own toys, they should actively look for ways to make their scenes more effective. Most slaves will ask their owners what they can do to prepare for a scene, but they might also want to ask if there’s anything they can bring. By offering to bring different toys, or just by bringing them along every time, this shows the slave is interested in being more than just a passive slave. They are actively helping their training process by bringing the tools they feel need to be used on them. The slave is always responsible for their own health and safety, even with long time partners.
** submissives: Do not play with any Dominant who refuses to use your toys and insists their toys are fine. If a Dominant can not accept your concerns for your health then they do not deserve to play with you.**
The Question OF Safety & Health
When someone new is training the slave, it’s best for the slave to bring his or her own toys. While the Master or Mistress might be reliable in terms of providing clean conditions, it never hurts to be safe. Using their own whips and floggers will assure the slave that they will not be exposed to the skin or the blood of another past slave. Just as a person might bring their own toothbrush for an overnight, a slave will want to pack up a bag of the things they want used on them, cleaned and ready to go. This bag might also include any other items that are better for their bodies. For example, when a slave is allergic or sensitive to a certain kind of lube, the slave should bring his or her own preferred brand.
The Element Of Surprise
Even though the slave might bring all of the things they want used on them, there is no telling what the Dominant might do. They might choose to use all of the items in the bag, or they might choose to use some of them in a different way than what that slave had imagined. The Master or Mistress will also get a chance to come up with a scene on the spot since they might not have seen the items in the bag until the slave shows the contents to them. This system is actually quite exciting for everyone involved, and safer.
Since a slave might want to visit a professional Master or Mistresses as a part of their development as a slave, it makes sense to have a goodie bag ready to go to these sessions. While safety is certainly a consideration of any Dom or Domme, a slave is still responsible for his or her own safety in the end. When they bring what they need, it can help to set the tone of the scene, but also the slave can more easily relax into the experience knowing they are safe.
When it comes to playing with another person and there is an exchange of bodily fluid, there is always a risk of catching or transmitting a disease. There are a few things you can do to reduce the risk and ensure you and your partner’s safety. None of these prevention techniques are 100% effective:
The only 100% safe and effective method for not being at risk for catching any type of sexually transmitted disease is through abstinence. This means abstaining from any sexual and BDSM related activity.
For more information on Sexually Transmitted Diseases go to:
The Centers For Disease Control And Prevention
**Please speak with your doctor or a medical professional for more information or about any concerns you may have.
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