BDSM Without Sex

For some, the whole point of bondage, spanking and other BDSM activities is to lead up to an inevitable sex scene which is more enjoyable because of all of the adrenaline which has been built up through punishments and pain. But for others, just the play, Domination and submission that goes along with BDSM is all they want. Some people who live a kinky life might have a sex partner who doesn’t enjoy BDSM, so to satisfy those urges they might play with other partners who will dominate them or they will dominate someone else for a night. Sometimes you don’t need to have sex in order to have a good time, though it’s certainly allowed between consenting adults.

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Removing Sex From BDSM Play
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When you remove sex from the equation, the slave has to work on other parts of their training in order to be obedient. They don’t have sex as something which motivates, so they simply have to be willing to listen to a Master or Mistress because they are told to do something. Conversely, a Master or Mistress who controls a slave without the added help of sex will find that they have to be more dominating in their tone and in their behavior. This way, they can control the slave while also training them to behave in the way they need to behave. Getting inside of the slave’s head without the use of sex can be difficult, but it can certainly be done with regular training sessions which are based on pleasing the one who is in control of the situation.

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Using Sex as a Motivator
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You might also be in a relationship where sex isn’t something that’s introduced at the start. But over time, as you grow to care about each other or to simply wanting to deepen the intimacy, sex might become a part of the relationship. In those situations, the sex might become a way to motivate the slave in order to behave well. That is, if they behave. By dangling this sort of carrot for a while, the slave will see that they need to continue to be a good slave in order to get what they want in the relationship and the Dominant can get what they want as well.

With that said, sex isn’t actually vital to the slave and Master/Mistress relationship because the control aspect should be strong enough on its own. If sex is necessary as a motivator, chances are good the training isn’t strong enough on its own. A Master or a Mistress should be able to control the slave, even when they aren’t going to enjoy any sex at the end. The slave should be willing to do what is asked of them because it pleases their owner, not because they are getting a reward.

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Why Sex isn’t Necessary
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BDSM without sex is quite common in groups of BDSM practitioners. For most kinksters, there are urges and internal desires that run deeper than sexual drives, which are centered solely around BDSM. These desires can only be satisfied by indulging in BDSM activities, sexual urges are separate and no amount of sex will satiate a kinkster’s BDSM cravings.

For a Dominant, this can be the desire to control another and see them vulnerable before them. For a Sadist, it is the desire to inflict pain on another and see them writhe in blissful painful delight. For the submissive, it can be letting go of all their worries, quieting their mind and just being focused on the next command. For the masochist, it is the endorphin release that comes from experiencing the pain and allowing everything to just flow out of their body. For all it can be a cathartic release and a time to bask in their BDSM desires.

While sex is often very enjoyable with BDSM – it is not crucial.

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Master Bishop

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