Ways To Keep Your Sub’s Attention In Public

The work of a Master is never quite done, is it? No matter how many hours you might spend in the dungeon, you know your slave needs more work. And just because you’re not strapping your slave to a table, they should be under your command. You can take your BDSM play out of the bedroom by giving your slave a few lessons of submission to use in public. Subtle, but effective, when your slave has to perform as a slave in public, not only will your training be more powerful, but she will know who the boss is – no matter who is around.

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Negotiations to Begin
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Before you can begin to tell your slave that they need to be your slave when you’re out in public, you need to sit down and talk with your slave about this proposition, especially if these ideas are not already a part of your contract. Talk with the slave about your reasoning behind the new guidelines, what they might include, and what their feelings might be. You will probably hear from your slave that they are more than willing to please you – even if it means they might be slightly uncomfortable in the process. BDSM is all about pushing boundaries, after all, isn’t it?

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Bondage Without Revealing a Thing
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Bondage aficionados will love the idea of binding their slave in ways that are discreet and yet helpful to training. All you need to do is to create a simple chest harness on her before she gets dressed for the evening. This will help her to maintain the proper posture, while also helping her remember that you are in charge of her body and her movement. Make sure the chest harness is not so tight that she can not breathe normally, but it should be tight enough that she can feel this harness at all times. Using slightly thinner rope is advised to ensure that no rope bumps are visible as well.

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Code Words to Use
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Sometimes, ‘Sir’ and ‘Master’ are going to sound out of place, especially when used in mixed company. Amongst your BDSM friends, these might be acceptable, but you need to choose something else when you’re going to be in proper situations. Some ideas for you to use include ‘May I’ and using all of the common pleasantries – thank you, please, etc. These sound a little innocuous, but you will turn them slightly more BDSM-flavored when your slave HAS to use these phrases, even if they want to just go to the bathroom. Make sure the slave has to ask your permission for everything, this will ensure she is still in her place.

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Subtle Movements to Employ
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Finally, a good way to remind your slave who is in charge, even when you’re not the Master of the situation is to have her always follow you wherever you go. She should never be in front of you when you walk in public. This is subtle and yet the submissive tone is undeniable. Another tip is to have your slave always stand next to you, no matter who might want them to talk in a different part of the room. They should stay within two feet of you at any time, only leaving when given permission.

Your slave doesn’t just act like a slave when the paddle is out or the rope is in place. Training your slave is something that should be done as often as possible as this is how lessons become behaviors and habits. Your slave’s training should continue when you are out and about, doing the things that other couples do – with a few tweaks for your pleasure.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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