As human beings, W/we have an intrinsic need to feel appreciated. Whether W/we are Dominant or submissive, if W/we feel like W/we are not appreciated for the things W/we do for people in O/our lives, it can become extremely demoralizing. A demoralized sub or Dom, does not lead to an overly happy relationship. Therefore to keep your partner happy its important to make them feel important, special and appreciated.
Topic For Discussion:
Dom/mes: What can a sub do that shows their appreciation and what do you do for a sub that shows you appreciate them
subs: What do you do to show your Dominant that you appreciate them and what can a Dominant do to show you that they appreciate you
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Regards,
Master Bishop
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Oh i love this topic. i love thinking of ways to show Master how much i appreciate Him. Mostly there is some specific service I will provide, like, cooking a special meal that He loves with too many calories when He has had a particularly stressful day, a note in His lunch box thanking Him for allowing me to please and serve Him. A massage just before W/we prepare for bed. His favorite chocolate tucked into the nightstand. Manicure on a Sunday. Cleaning the gutter in the garage floor because we were expecting a large rain storm and Master was concerned about the water draining. It took me 3 hours but the look of total surprise and appreciate were worth every second. Then there are the personal gifts – the inability to control my hands whenever He is close enough to touch (because i appreciate His body). Most importantly i tell Him all the time with my words , actions, and heart by being obedient, graceful, honest, open, trusting, respectful, and loving.
Master shows His appreciation in various ways as well. One of my favorites is when He washes my hair, or when he surprises me by coming home early because He heard the need in my voice. Then of course there are the times when He just takes me into His lap and cuddles me while W/we watch a movie or TV show to unwind after a long day. Oh and nothing says I appreciate you more than my Master standing at the door at the end of the day looking down at me while holding in His big strong hands a Large Ice Mocha Latte. Or when He scolds me for not texting enough and promises me there will be consequences for my lack of attention to His need to hear from me. I mean honestly what better way to tell someone you missed them than to promise a good spanking for not checking in more regularly throughout my day. But again these are the special acknowledgements above and beyond the everyday things that Master does to show He appreciates me. First and foremost He tells me with His words and actions all the time. He is open, honest, strong, generous, commanding, and loving.
Master Bishop is correct – for me it is very true. i absolutely need to feel appreciated and it is equally important for my heart and happiness that i am able to express to Master how much i appreciate Him. As a submissive/slave i don’t get to make decisions but that doesn’t mean i can’t think for myself and find creative ways to show my Master that i appreciate Him as well.
For Me, nothing says I care like a nice home cooked meal. I did not grow up in a wealthy family, so the way My family showed they cared was by sharing what they did have; the food on our table. If a sub makes Me a meal big or small, it makes Me feel that they do appreciate Me. At the same time, when a sub has behaved and has been working hard, I love to show her how much I appreciate her by cooking up a very special meal for her.
Other things that can show a sub that they appreciate Me, is by telling Me what it is that I do for them that they appreciate. Often times I think as humans when an act becomes common place W/we can take things for granted. For example, just hearing a sub say “Thank you Master for picking Me up from work to ensure that I am always safe.” Its a perfect way to show that a sub recognizes what you do for them and is grateful for it.
Don’t get Me wrong, the same goes for Dominants. I always enjoy sharing My gratitude and appreciation for the work a sub puts into their service. It is very easy for a submissive to feel neglected and unappreciated, so its always important to tell them how good they are.
Another way I show appreciation would be to send My sub to get pampered herself. To have others serve her for a change, whether that be a manicure, pedicure, massage, and/or facial.
As for subs, a nice gesture could be to help complete any work that needs to be done for their Dominant. This could be household chores, business projects or miscellaneous jobs. The more time that is freed up for Me, the more I can focus on a sub and their training. By doing these time killing jobs, its not only shows their appreciation, but it also shows that they are willing to do whatever it takes to ensure W/we get to spend more quality time together.
Master Bishop