Intro To Pet Play In BDSM

Intro To Pet Play In BDSM

Have you ever seen another person being lead around by a collar and leash, or wearing pony gear, or an adorable set of floppy bunny ears and felt a  flutter of butterflies in your belly? Listen to that feeling! Always!

Pet play or Animal Roleplay is way more common than one may think, especially these days where many fetishes that used to be considered taboo are becoming much more commonly accepted.

If you have ever felt that flutter at the idea of becoming a four legged ball of fun, but don’t know how to start or really know what to do or how to incorporate this into your life, here is some shared perspective that hopefully will help you along your journey!

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Why Would Someone Want To Be A Pet?

There are a million different ways to answer; however, I can only speak from my personal experiences along my own journey these last 15 years. My path started with my realization and understanding of the concept of masochism, and that I very much fell into that mindset, so first I admitted I was a masochist.

Pain wasn’t an enemy in my world; it pushed my workouts, my hikes, my recovery from my c-section. A little farther along I realized and admitted I was also more naturally comfortable as a submissive, though being dominant was satisfying in other ways at given times. That was more a role, not my natural state.

So I became a masochistic submissive. While exploring being a submissive, I quickly learned I was no brat and did not seek discipline as play. I was too deeply mentally damaged for those games. As a young girl, I was very much a teacher’s pet and always strived to make my parent’s proud, so as a submissive I naturally regressed to a little.

That became part of me as well- a masochistic submissive little. Being grown up was too hard. Too painful. Being a little allowed my mind a break from adulting and the stresses that came with it.

In the hands of my first Sadistic Owner, the last piece of my puzzle emerged…kitten.

Through his training and writing assignments, I was able to realize, understand and admit all these secret new parts of my psyche! Being put on voice restriction and forced to communicate without words really pushed this side out of me. I found the familiar ways of a feline coming out naturally- sliding against ankles, playing with yarn and feathers, and of course collars and purring!

I had never considered being a kitten and then I was presented with my first set of ears-he had handmade, along with my Consideration Collar. His gift, of furry handmade red and black ears, made me feel complete! Without prompting I immediately colored in the tip of my nose and drew whiskers on my face to share in special pics while we were apart. Kitten was born!

I am a highly skilled and trained masochistic submissive little kitten who adores being the very best good girl I can be for my Daddy. Which means not only do I enjoy giving complete control over to my Owner while in a headspace of a younger age (kitten not cat), I also enjoy learning how to absorb and take in His energy through impact play as well as rough feral play and strict tight bondage of all types.

My kitten self is embedded in my Self, she is not an act, nor a game, she is Me. It took over a decade to put all that together and be proud of who I am. Be open and honest during your own journey!

The Difference Between a Submissive Vs a Pet

All of us are special and require different things from our Dominant. Pet play should come from the inside of you first. Not every submissive wants to be a pet. They are different. Being submissive does not make one an animal. Being a pet does not necessarily make one submissive.

How To Find Your Inner Pet

If thinking of being a pet perks your ears up and makes you smile inside, find out which animal speaks most familiar to your soul. For me it was easy. I was given my first kitten when I was three years old. Naturally I was always drawn to felines. Not just the furry ears or Halloween costumes. It went so far beyond that. Their body language, their ferocity, their amazing ability to survive; how adorably sweet and cute and fluffy they as kittens!

Find an animal that you feel suits your personality best. Experiment when you feel safe, maybe buy some bunny ears, or puppy ears. I adore jewel anal plugs so plug tails were a perfect fit for an accessory for me! Paint your face and play with your wardrobe and make-up! Have fun with it, that’s what it is all about! Though some pets may be brats, and others like me, obedient and eager to obey, all pets have one thing in common: we all want to be kept safe and protected, as well as receive our Owner’s attention and affection.

Yes being submissive certainly earns you those things; however, I need more than just putting on my Owner’s socks and shoes. I need more than rope play. I need to engage with my Owner in high quality bonding time where we use our imaginations in a shared effort to bring us closer together. Not every Dominant wants a pet. Some Dominants want all of the attention on them at all times. Pets can be needier than a normal submissive. Requiring more attention, more rules, rituals and rewards. Pets require extra effort on the Dominants part as well.

Pet play is more satisfying and powerful for me because I lose my voice and words, I lose myself in kitten, my duties as a submissive are temporarily suspended as I get to simply play and be …me. Pet play, to me, is more than submitting because it takes my mind off of real life and even taking care of my Owner, because during pet play, he is taking care of me.

It is through my actions and body language that I can show him how much I adore him, and he in return, trains and rewards me roughly. Whereas some submissives want to be spanked because they are a bad girl- many pets I encounter feel that does not suit us properly. I would rather earn rough rewards, such as spankings, feral play and wrestling, hair pulling and face slapping, for being a good obedient loyal pet. I love those games and would never want them to be used against me as punishment or discipline- especially in a joking manner. Reward me roughly for being your eager fuck kitten!

What Kind Of Pet Do You Want To Be?

Once you find your spirit pet, figure out what type of pet you want to be. The possibilities are endless! To begin with, and so you don’t confuse your Dominant, begin by figuring out -do you want to be a good pet or a bad pet? Submissive or dominant? What are you seeking from this interaction?

Much like a submissive, pets usually fall into one of those two categories: good girl or brat. I cannot stress enough though, in an open, healthy loving dynamic, you and your Dominant can play whatever roles you choose. I realized by being punished by a Sadist that I did not want my motivation to come from a place of fear in a highly toxic non sexual way.

My motivation is naturally to please and obey. Pushing my limits and surrendering to my Owner’s needs and commands knowing I am safe. I enjoy the challenge of not only learning my Protocol but proving to my Owner that I can follow through with it and earn the smile of Satisfaction every pet yearns and aches to see. The better I act, the rougher the reward I earn!

Pet play has endless scenarios though:

Take the time to explore the many different scenarios and imagine them while you touch yourself and see which one you respond to the most. Go slow and enjoy the process! Pet play is unbelievably satisfying when the right measures are taken to ensure the safety and creativity of everyone involved. Dominants must remember a pet is not a slave, unless that’s what they seek. Boundaries must be established before pet play.

For example, the actual act of playing. Is your submissive ok with you petting others? Are they ok with being shown off or commanded by another? How does the thought of bringing another pet in make them feel? Are they in a proper headspace for pet play and if so, is it playing or caring they most seek?

Over time it will be easier to feel each other out but in the beginning open honest communication is key.

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By Annabelle Genovisi

Beginning her journey as a talented fetish model over 15 years ago, Annabelle began her trip down the rabbit hole and has been playing in Wonderland since! With extensive experience as both a collared trained submissive, and an Owner of her own collared trained puppy, she absolutely adores everything the lifestyle has to offer and nothing brings her joy like sharing her knowledge with others to help them along their own path!

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