Before You Start
As a submissive, you have every right to refuse any task you do not want to take part in. You never have to do anything you are uncomfortable, and/or unsure about. Just because you are submissive does not mean you must do anything you don’t want to do. That includes this task! Your participation is always your choice and your decision.
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In your last task W/we focused on the idea of how important and valued you are. How nothing in this world will ever be as important to your Dominant than you. That you will be cherished and protected because of what you mean to your Dominant.
But it’s not just important for you to feel that from your Dominant, you must know that in your core and you need to treat yourself with the same respect. Even if you don’t have a Dominant it is just as important to always protect, care for and treat yourself the way you would want your Dominant to.
Since your first task, I would hope you have continued to stand proud in front of your mirror and embrace all that is you, your strengths, your flaws and your submission in all its raw essence.
If you haven’t it’s time for you to make it a regular part of your weekly submissive rituals. Taking that time to reconnect with and embrace you. Make sure you go back and redo your Submissive Task: Stand And Understand
In life there are two major battles we all struggle with. There is our battle with who we are in relation to the outside or external world and there is the internal battle within ourselves that we constantly are at odds with.
Many people try to solve these struggles by finding the solution within the physical outside world. They try to grasp onto material items the clothes, cars, trips, money and sex as a definition of who they are. That once these goals are achieved not only will the external definition be resolved but that constant internal battle within will also be silenced.
But this is not how it works, to truly uncover yourself, your desires and your life, you must first confront your internal struggles. Until you do that, you will forever be at odds with your submission because you are at odds with yourself.
Once you embrace yourself, your submission will empower you because it will be you. Now you can go out into the physical world and make it yours. Anything that you then take on will be yours to redefine, reshape and express to the world that which is you.
A collar will no longer be an item you pine for to define who you are, it will be you! Instead of allowing the collar to define your submission, make your submission define the collar as it becomes an extension of you. You will be able to make that collar yours, as you express who you are to the world!
It’s very easy to get lost in the physical world, the sexy clothes, exotic locations, all those hot hot bdsm scenes that just speak to your inner being. And to allow those flashy exciting things consume your attention and define you. But that is only the tip of the complex iceberg that is you.
You see all the real answers to the world and your life all reside within you but first you must choose to unlock the door to you.
This is your task and while it may seem simple it is going to be the most difficult task you will have to complete. I want you to answer one question:
Do you want the physical world to continue to define you or do you want more and for you to define to the world who you are?
Take some time to think about it, it really isn’t as easy of a question as it may first appear. Now is the time to face yourself.
When you know your answer write it down in your journal or leave your answer in the comments below. Express your internal decision physically, so you can see how when you put your mind to it you are able to define your world when you choose too.
By Master Bishop
The founder of the BDSM Training Academy. Master Bishop has been involved in the Dominant/submissive lifestyle for over 19 years. With a love for education both learning and teaching, Master Bishop has passed on his knowledge and experience to others entering into the BDSM lifestyle for over 14 years.
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