As with many long term relationships things change and evolve and sometimes these changes are not for the better, but then there are times when the changes are over the top amazingly fulfilling.
O/our journey into the BDSM lifestyle and our new 24/7 TPE (Total power exchange) relationship has brought a new dynamic to our sexual relationship that frankly i truly only felt was possible in my fantasies.
O/our story is the same. We met, fell in love and married. Ok well maybe a little different. It was a whirlwind romance. W/we met, fell in love instantly and married within 9 months. W/we have had a very special relationship from the start and are going to celebrate 20 years married this year.
For 18 ½ years O/our relationship has been strong, loving and passionate and mostly vanilla. But the passion had been changing. Our intimacy and attraction to each other was still strong but less frequent perhaps less intense. O/our focus had changed and we lost sight of each other for a bit. Life’s stresses were consuming us and it was having a very negative impact on our intimacy and our connection.
Then about a year ago i asked my husband to join me on a new journey. i wanted to explore the overwhelming desires i had to experience my fantasies and i wanted to explore them with Him. i explained that i wanted to explore my need to be dominated, controlled and completely at the mercy of the one person who wanted to totally possess me, Him. i wanted to learn what it would truly feel like to give over complete trust and control and to know without question that i was safe and free to feel the intense intimacy i had only read or dreamed about.
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As with many long term relationships things change and evolve and sometimes these changes are not for the better, but then there are times when the changes are over the top amazingly fulfilling.
O/our journey into the BDSM lifestyle and our new 24/7 TPE (Total power exchange) relationship has brought a new dynamic to our sexual relationship that frankly i truly only felt was possible in my fantasies.
O/our story is the same. We met, fell in love and married. Ok well maybe a little different. It was a whirlwind romance. W/we met, fell in love instantly and married within 9 months. W/we have had a very special relationship from the start and are going to celebrate 20 years married this year.
For 18 ½ years O/our relationship has been strong, loving and passionate and mostly vanilla. But the passion had been changing. Our intimacy and attraction to each other was still strong but less frequent perhaps less intense. O/our focus had changed and we lost sight of each other for a bit. Life’s stresses were consuming us and it was having a very negative impact on our intimacy and our connection.
Then about a year ago i asked my husband to join me on a new journey. i wanted to explore the overwhelming desires i had to experience my fantasies and i wanted to explore them with Him. i explained that i wanted to explore my need to be dominated, controlled and completely at the mercy of the one person who wanted to totally possess me, Him. i wanted to learn what it would truly feel like to give over complete trust and control and to know without question that i was safe and free to feel the intense intimacy i had only read or dreamed about.
Well to say my husband was a bit shocked by my request is definitely an understatement. But He and i have always shared a deep love and respect for each other and O/our relationship is built on a very strong foundation. So my already amazingly loving supportive husband said yes. He agreed to take the Male Dominate course and i took the Female slave course. This turned out to be one of the top 10 all-time best ideas we have had in quite some time.
Becoming a slave has awakened sensuality within me that i have felt burning deep inside for some time. i am overwhelmed by the intense passion and the heightened awareness i have of my body and how it responds to being completely controlled by my Master (husband).
i have always trusted my husband but learning to trust enough to allow Master (husband) to use my body for His own gratification is like presenting Him with the most amazing gift ever. Freely giving him every part of my body to explore, taste, touch, feel and drink of without embarrassment (well maybe a little) free of guilt and reprisal is an extremely erotic and illuminating feeling.
And beyond the physical heightened sexuality and enjoyment there is the emotional and spiritual enhanced connection between us. Sex is new and full of explorations. W/we openly communicate about what W/we fantasize about and would like to experience. W/we discuss previous experiences and how they felt. Did W/we enjoy them and would W/we like to add the new sexual play to our daily activities.
Embracing this lifestyle and exploring our new sexual dynamic has re-ignited the passion that W/we had when we first met. It’s amazing how W/we now find that each touch, smell, whisper has a new feel to it. Sex is more intense, far more passionate and freeing. Each experience is like a new first time, full of excitement, arousal, anticipation and overwhelming emotion. W/we have once again become HUNGRY for each other.
For me this hunger has become even more intense and sexually charged than when we first met. i am still amazed that a simple whisper in my ear telling me “You are mine” or the command “kneel” can elicit a sexual response that is not just emotional but physical as well. Just knowing that every part of me belongs to Master because He wants it to be so; is extremely arousing.
Before taking this journey i can say that my libido was waning significantly. Much of the change was due to age, hormonal changes, complacency in the relationship and life in general. Since embracing this lifestyle i have been awakened and am sexually charged all the time. It is the most amazing and satisfying experience of my life so far.
Master is an exceptional man and He is taking my body to sexual heights and limits that reach deep into my soul and heart. All i have to do is put Him and His need first, to serve with obedience, grace and gratitude. To let go, trust and submit completely. In return i get to enjoy the most beautiful, amazing and fulfilling journey of my life so far.
i am still in awe over the transformation and complete peace and balance i now have in my life. And the passion and intimacy and sex are over the top amazing.
If you have ever thought you wanted to explore your own feelings and desires, take the journey you may like the person you find there.
Sincerely,
sub-kathleen
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