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The Difference Between BDSM And Abuse
I continually receive emails and comments at The BDSM Training Academy about how BDSM is a form of abuse. I find it very upsetting, especially when we try so hard to educate people on how to incorporate a safe, sane and consensual form of BDSM here at the Academy. BDSM is meant to enhance and strengthen a healthy, loving relationship.
The Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants
Choosing the Dominant that you want to serve is a serious decision. One that is taken far too lightly but in fact should not be. Making yourself mentally and physically vulnerable to the wrong person can have terrible repercussions. A genuine Dominant can produce a supportive relationship that will allow a submissive to feel safe enough to be their true self.
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Part 1: A Holistic Approach To Aftercare
I consider “aftercare” to be a ritual or activity that helps both parties reorient themselves to the real world after a scene. In my experience, it’s a brief activity that happens before the “goodbyes” or a transitional activity between other events. In comparison, what I call “holistic aftercare” includes reorientation activities and rituals extending beyond the scene’s immediate end. It includes not only post-scene activities
Pitfalls of New BDSM Relationships: How to Avoid Them, Or Climb Back Out of Them
Ask any veteran submissive tips on how to get started and you will hear three common themes: avoid submitting too soon, have limits, and don’t confine yourself to a label. Yet, veterans and newbies alike seem to take the do-not-do list and turn it into our things to-do list. In the heat and sexiness of scening, we end up on our knees handing our submission
Kink Redefined: Shattering the Myths of BDSM
Hidden behind a veil of intrigue and misconceptions the world of BDSM calls to us with its complexities and secret desires Kink Redefined Shattering the Myths of BDSM is a journey into the heart of a lifestyle that defies stereotypes and invites us to explore the boundaries of human connection and consent
We live in a society where preconceived notions often obscure the
New Year Fresh Start Kinkster Style
We all hear vanilla people talking about their resolutions this time of year: lose weight, eat healthier, get more confidence, spend more time with family. But what about our kinky side. What resolutions do you have for yourself this year. Eat more pussy? Spend more time doing vanilla things a kinky way? Or are you rewriting your contracts from years past. Trying out new kinks
The Obsession with Spanking Scenes In Film
“Spanking, Always Up For A Bit of Spanking!” Discovering Spanko Sexualities Through TV and Film It’s a commonality among spankos that one or twice in our lives, we’ve watched spanking scenes on TV. Quite often, some of our first memories of spanking are of us being very young and witnessing a spanking scene in a TV show or film when we were innocently minding our
What Life is Like as a Collared and Owned Male Submissive
My life as a collared, owned, obedient, live-in, submissive houseboy to a dominant, authoritative Mistress began back in October of 2021 when we met for our first date. We’d connected through a dating app a few days earlier and had hit it off immediately with exciting, witty and tantalising banter. We agreed to meet quite soon after for a get-to-know-you drink because She lived in
A Fetish for Fitness
As a submissive in a 24/7 TPE relationship, I enjoy meeting the expectations of my Dominant. I strive to please him, I obey commands, I accept discipline and I serve, all of which require dedication and effort. I do enjoy the lifestyle we lead, but it’s not always easy. I find it helps if I’m feeling tip-top, and that means looking after my mental and
How to Embrace Submission in Your Vanilla Life
The vanilla world is one realm where Dominants can often have less presence or influence in their submissive’s life, intentional or not. Unless you live with your Dominant in a 24/7 dynamic or your Dominant is often physically with you, the majority of vanilla situations in your life will likely occur without your Dominant’s immediate presence or guidance. This can be for better or worse!
BDSM Protocols: Part 1 – Introduction
I feel like the least-likely guy on the Earth to write an article on BDSM protocols. It’s a subject that has fascinated me since I first discovered how kinky I was, and something I’ve studied since the 90s. But, it’s also been a subject that I always figured was too large and too complex, or just something that I didn’t have enough experience to write
How To Respect And Follow Your Dominant’s Guidance In Their Absence In Kinky Situations
The presence of a Dominant can be hugely comforting in public Having their guidance and being able to follow their lead in real time can relieve the stress and pressure of making decisions But sadly our Dominants can t follow us everywhere or vice versa and often we must operate without their immediate guidance
So let s talk about how you as a
Communication Standards for Submissives & Littles
The Importance of Effective Communication Effective communication is an important pillar of any healthy relationship. I’ve found that the communication skills I’ve gained through my Teacher/student kink dynamic have helped me improve my ability to communicate in other areas of my life. Learning to better express myself has made all the difference, not only in my romantic relationships but also in platonic, familial, and professional
Yes, Dominants Need Aftercare Too
I traveled with my submissive to a public dungeon out-of-town and attended a great seminar followed by an open play session. I was inspired by the seminar to try some of the things that the presenter had mentioned. What followed was a fun session for us. It was an intense and challenging session for the submissive, but it was equally immersive and draining on me