Need Ideas for Getting Your Sub’s Mind into a Submissive Space?

When it comes to getting your sub in the mood, it would be so much easier if subs were always perfect…but this isn’t realistic. Sometimes subs just aren’t ready for a session, even if they want to be. Your job as the dominant person in the relationship is to make sure your sub is ready to serve you and to be submissive to you when the time comes. And there are ways to help your sub get into the right frame of mind. All you need to do is to start realizing that submission doesn’t just include taking a few swats from the crop.

It Starts Outside of the Bedroom

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Test Your Submissive By Shaving Them

Trust is one of the tenets of a Master-slave relationship. If your slave doesn’t trust you, then the relationship will fizzle out and die. Often in training, you will create scenarios in which your slave’s trust is tested and tested again. Sometimes, it can be challenging to continuously find ways to test your slave. A new way to test the trust of your slave is by shaving them before a scene. When you do so, your slave is forced to give over control of their most intimate parts – for you to do with them what you will.

Why Shaving is More Difficult

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Opera Gloves in Your BDSM Scene

When you go to see a play, you might notice that the props can often make an ordinary scene one that is  Wet look Long Glovesmemorable. The same thing can be said for BDSM scenes. Though you might have a powerful voice and a strong presence, there’s something more exciting about a Mistress or Master that pulls out a prop and begins to throw it around at a slave or near a slave. And the most innocuous props are the ones that really seem to make the difference. Opera gloves, though simple looking at first, are able to turn a simple scene into one that changes a slave – for the better.

Wearing Gloves to Please

Though it doesn’t really matter who’s wearing the gloves, the Mistress is the most common person for the job. She will wear the gloves at the start of a scene or she will show them to the slave as she is putting them on, ever more seductively and slowly. This process serves to show the slave that she is trying to turn him on, but also that he is only just an observer to her beauty…until she decides to allow him otherwise. The gloves might also be a common addition to the scene, but they might only be taken out and used as something more once in a while. It’s up to you how you want to begin to change the way that you interact with a slave.

 

The Glove Restraint Method

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Sub Question: What If I Can’t Provide What My Dom/me Wants?

I love bondage and that’s the only thing that really gets me sexually in the mood with my mistress. She likes to bind me and fuck me but what do I do if my mistress wants something I can’t provide?

Sincerely,

LJ

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Mistress Brianne’s Opinion

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Dom/sub Journal: What Is Your Purpose

W/we all need to feel like W/we have purpose in O/our lives.  A person who does not have any sense of purpose can suffer from feelings of depression, stress, and anxiety.  Their days overwhelm them despite much of the time they feel like they have nothing to do.  They don’t have any plans for the future and any future ideas just cause more depress and stress.

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How To Plan A BDSM Scene

Many Dominants try to train submissives by simply doing whatever comes to mind or by having a basic outline of what they may want to do.  Many experienced Dominants can get away with this because they have experienced much of the different training scenarios previously and know how they will be able to handle any changes they need to make on the fly.  Where this becomes an issue, is with new Dominants.

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