Sub Question: How Do I Beg/Plead Better

A begging slave

Hi I was wondering if you could give me some useful tips on how to plead/beg better, I am OK But I feel I could do much better, I know submissiveness comes from the heart and it does with me, but there is always room for improvement, one never stops learning.

Anonymous

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Master Bishop’s Opinion:

When it comes to begging and pleading, there are certainly always opportunities for improvement. One of the things I most often notice about submissives is that they don’t seem sincere. They just say the first thing that pops into their head. Which tends to translate too “Please may I XXXXX”

To serve your Mistress or Master better, you will want to make sure your begging comes from a deeper place, a place of wanting to please and a place of wanting to do all that you can to serve.

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Why Speaking Sweetly Can Make Your Sub Cringe

Your sub, by now, knows about your mean voice and it probably makes him cringe. He doesn’t know what it might be saying, but he knows he’s in for something terrible. When you start to create a long-term BDSM relationship, it’s easy to fall into patterns that work for you. And when you’re training your slave, being mean is often a great way to make sure that he listens. But you need to switch things up – by talking sweetly.

More Flies with Honey?

When you think about it, you already know that talking sweetly to others will get you what you want. Though you might try to be mean in your everyday life, that just doesn’t work as well outside of the dungeon. Instead, you need to be nice, but not so nice that you’re a pushover. When you are with your slave and you tell him naughty and horrible things in a sweet voice, he will still get the message. Notice how he shivers a bit because you sound like you’re sweet, even harmless, but the content of what you’re saying is going to cause him to be at your feet. He knows that you could turn in an instant, and that keeps him on his toes.

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Domination Of An Alpha Submissive

Having discussed the ups and downs of a long term Dominant/submissive relationship with Master Alan, I figured everybody could benefit from their fifteen years together.  While a Dom/sub dynamic seems simple enough from the outside looking, in fact it can be even more complex and difficult to manage.  However, the benefits and joys that one can experience if able to work through such difficult situations can prove to be truly euphoric.  Many would agree well worth any struggle.

This is why I asked Master Alan to share with you his story about the winding and sometimes bumpy road He and his Alpha submissive took to get where they are now.  Clearly this long journey can not be expressed in one article, so Master Alan will be sharing his story in multiple articles.  I hope you enjoy and learn from his experience and knowledge.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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I want to take a moment to clarify something. What I will be discussing here is my personal dynamic and beliefs. I personally feel that when you place a collar on a sub/slave (s/s) that it holds the same weight as a legal marriage. It is a commitment. I am not referring to a collar used during play for purposes of restraint. I am talking about when you collar a s/s as your property and take ownership. You should also understand that this lifestyle has many different aspects to it. What works for us, can be (and usually is), totally different from what works for others. There is no right or wrong dynamic, but what works for your situation. Our dynamic has evolved over the years to what it is today. I am sure that it will look totally different ten years from now.

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How To Intensify Your Sub’s Training

At some point of your training, you begin to realize that your submissive can be more than they are at that moment. Whether they have already learned everything you have taught them or they simply seem bored with being a submissive, a Dominant’s job is to make sure that training continues. Let’s talk about how you can intensify your training sessions so that your slave is going to realize that you’re not done with them – not at all.

First Things First…

Sit down with your submissive outside of the Dungeon and talk to them. Ask them how they feel in regards to their training. Some things you need to understand and the more you understand the better you will be able to ramp up their training:

  • Are they feeling overwhelmed from training?
  • Are they adjusting well to their training and dealing with the rest of their vanilla life?
  • Are they having a difficult time remembering instructions/training?
  • How has their energy level been?

These questions can give you a good idea of whether your submissive is overdoing things, being pushed too hard and/or is close to burning out.

  • How difficult would you say your training has become?
  • Do you find yourself becoming bored or uninterested in training lately?  Are you becoming bored or uninterested in things in general?
  • Are you wanting more challenges and tasks to be assigned to you in your training?
  • Is there any new skills or activities that you are wanting to learn?
  • Is there anything that you need more from Me as your Dominant?
  • Do you have any concerns regarding your training or of Me (Your Dominant) that you would like to speak openly about?

You can always ask more questions, these are just meant to help you get started

Use Harder Toys

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Making BDSM Dating A Little Easier

HelpWantedToFindAKinkyPartnerFinding a compatible partner in the vanilla world can be a very difficult task.  Each person has different morals, values, sense of humor, goals in life, physical tastes, etc, etc  There are hundreds of different things that can make or break a vanilla relationship and determine if two individuals will ever be truly compatible.  Now if dating is difficult in the vanilla world, that must make dating in the Kinky community extremely difficult.

You still have all the difficulties and compatibility issues that vanilla daters face but now you have to find someone that is your complete opposite in regards to your kinks.  If you like being Dominant then you need to find someone who likes to be submissive, however its not that simple. Does this person have similar kinks and lifestyle desires as you?  Are they wanting to be in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship or are they just looking to be submissive in the bedroom.  Do they want a monogamous relationship or a poly relationship. If you enjoy spanking, flogging, caning, bondage, etc, do they enjoy these activities as well.  I’m sure you can see how being kinky adds so many more dynamics to an already complex dating situation.  While it may seem impossible to find someone in this lifestyle, you have to remember there is someone for everyone in this world.

Where To Find A Partner

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A Day In The Life Of A Slave Serving Her Master

i am a submissive/slave 24/7 to my Master. The journey began 21 years ago as Husband and wife and over the past 3 years has grown into the Master/slave, Total Power Exchange lifestyle i am honored and blessed to share with my Master/Husband. i’m certain this all sounds wonderful and romantic, erotic and fun; Living 24/7 in bondage or in a constant state of sexual arousal. Having all your fantasies and desires fulfilled while kneeling at the feet of your Master. Well yes, in many ways it is, but not always.

Join me for a typical Monday:

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Mental Orgasms Are Real

sub-kathleen was gracious enough to continue O/our discussion on the power of the mental orgasm.  She has shared a very personal experience with her Master on the power and effects of an orgasm through mental Domination can have on a submissive.  If you were not a believer before that mental orgasms are possible, then hopefully this will help to convince you.

Master Bishop


i am pretty sure many of you have experienced an orgasm that was reached with little or perhaps even no physical touch or stimulation. Hopefully i’m not aging myself when i use the term wet dream. This was my first experience with a mental orgasm and honestly until recently i didn’t even have a clear name or understanding of what this was. Having been young and quite inexperienced i was a bit shocked by the fact that my body could in-fact respond physically to what i was seeing and feeling in my mind, in my dreams. But orgasm i did. i awoke completed saturated in sweat, my heart was pounding so hard i thought it would burst. i was panting and then there was this most deliciously warm rhythmic pulsing down low. Not in my stomach, lower, yes somewhere, ah yes there. It’s wet, and oh so sensitive. i was so completely sated and confused and disoriented. What had just happened? It was still dark outside so i quickly looked to the clock, 2:00am. Geez… what the hell just happened? That couldn’t have been a dream.

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